casey001 Posted February 4, 2008 Posted February 4, 2008 Hey all!! I was with my ex for 2 years and we were really really close. We were inseperable and knew everything about 1 another. He was so loving and caring for most of our relationship and i couldnt have been happier. But things changed toward the end of our relationship. In the last few months he would constantly txt and email other girls and spent more time talking with them about me than talking to me. He also tried to drag me down alot by telling me everyone hated me and just plain putting me down. Evrytime i saw a message he'd sent to another girl id get upset and confront him, Yet everytime he would turn the situation round and somehow make it my fault and i would end up aplolgising! He would get really angry with me! Anyway after i had tried to fix the mess again he txt me and broke up with me and got another new gf the very same night. I was so devastated and my heart was ripped out! I tried to talk to him but he was like a completly different person, he was so cold and cruel. He blocked me out of his life and hasnt contacted me since. I really just cant understand how he could change like that! We had a whole future planned and were really in love. I wish so much that he would show some emotion to our break up but he literally doesnt care. He has a new life with his new gf and its like i never exsisted. I wait everyday for him to contact just to say sorry or that hes missing me but it never happens How could someone show absolutly no emotion and have a new gf the same night after a two year realtionship with someone else??? And we were so close, we wouldnt go 5 minutes without contacting each other and now hes just blocked me from his life and doesn't care! I have tried to move on and go out on dates but I just cant do it Dating makes it worse and i feel like im cheating on him. Will it always be like this??? Will i ever be able to move on?? Please reply if u can help cause im really lost and upset at the moment and i just dont no what life holds for me anymore.
eagle5 Posted February 5, 2008 Posted February 5, 2008 Firstly he sounds like he was becoming discontent with your relationship, don't blame yourself at all, he probably got to that situation where he wanted a change for whatever reason, if he was texting other girls, he probably wanted to play the field, I don't know how old you both are but maybe he wasn't ready for a big commitment. Secondly you were absolutely right to be suspicious about his txts, if he made you feel guilty and turned it around, that probably was because he was guilty of something. Thirdly if he found a new gf the same night you broke up, he was either (sorry to be harsh) seeing her before and maybe that was the cause of the break up or he was rebounding to make himself feel better. Either way he isn't worth the worry. I know that sounds hard but you've got to think of you now, whatever reason he had for ending it has happened and you have no control over that. Give it time, he may come back and tell you he's made a mistake or tell you how bad he feels but hopefully you'll be in a better place to handle that situation. It's good you've tried to move on but DON'T push youself too hard, these things always take time, you need to try to concentrate on yourself now, try to learn from the last two years but don't expect too much too soon, dating may be hard for you right now as you probably still have very strong feelings for him. On a slightly better note, you WILL get through this, you will be able to move on, like I said give it time, keep busy, try doing some new things you haven't done before. Try no contact, even though he isn't contacting you at the moment don't be tempted to contact him, it'll help your healing process in the long run. Just remember you have your whole life out there ahead of you, no one can take that away from you.... Keep talking and stay strong Eagle...x
strife Posted February 5, 2008 Posted February 5, 2008 eagle5 is right, just take your time to heal. Whatever happened, it was not your fault. It sounds like this guy has changed for another reason and was not mature enough to talk to you directly. You may be in shock because you knew his personality and your relationship - but try to accept that he has changed for worse. From my experience, the guy does come back to apologize years after the incident. By that time, you'll realize that you deserve WAY better treatment.
1bee Posted February 5, 2008 Posted February 5, 2008 casey001! i'm going through the same thing right now. my boyfriend of three years ended it out of the blue a couple of months ago and is now in a relationship with another woman and he's completely cut me out of his life. you're doing the right thing for yourself. start thinking about YOU. go out and treat yourself to a new haircut and go shopping for new clothes. you don't have to think about a relationship right now, but talking to people will help you. i know what you're going through because i'm still hurting about what happened to me too. like my ex, your's most likely has commitment issues and he's an immature and selfish prick that just wants to have fun right now. even though things look bleak for you and great for him right now, it's not the case. a person can't get away with treating someone like that without it coming back to bite them in the ass somewhere down the road. but remember you are better then him.
Author casey001 Posted February 5, 2008 Author Posted February 5, 2008 Thank you soooo much for replying!! Every comment helped me so much!! I really appreciate it!!! Uve all defiently made a difference so thankyou so much!! I cant say how much i appreciate all the kind words!
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