Author Kamille Posted February 5, 2008 Author Posted February 5, 2008 I do agree with marlena except for the unselfish part.. Not smoking inside isn't an unselfish act.. an unselfish act would be him quitting.. It is however showing some respect for the other person's health. I wish you well Kamille.. it seems like you both have something good and worth having.. ..and if it means anything I'm not one to say that a person should follow another to another state but in this case I think it would be the best decision.. Thanks AC for wishing me well. As for smoking, you're also right. Sometimes he wheezes and it really scares me. Right now he's strong and healthy and I think he's letting that give him a false sense of comfort. He's in complete denial about the effects smoking has on his health. He knows that I'd be more then suportive if ever he wants to quit and that I believe he could quit fairly easily. I think he is the kind of guy who, once he sets his mind on something, just goes for it. That's all I can do really, until he decides to quit. But, for now, I'll take the no-smoking inside. I used to be an occasionnal smoker, quit in June, and the irony isn't lost on me that I now get more toxins in because of exposure to the secondhand smoke of his pack-a-day then when I was smoking 2-5 cigs a day.
marlena Posted February 5, 2008 Posted February 5, 2008 Kamille, I reside in the land of the Olympian gods! Now if that won't entice you I don't know what will!
Author Kamille Posted February 5, 2008 Author Posted February 5, 2008 Kamille, I reside in the land of the Olympian gods! Now if that won't entice you I don't know what will! Lucky! I am definitely enticed! Bf and I were brainstorming ideas for a trip in June and that was one of them. Great food, the sea and great historical sites is my idea of a great vacation.
Pyro Posted February 5, 2008 Posted February 5, 2008 Pyro, I couldn't get through your pm (it might be disactivated). But really, how many great hockey teams is there in Central Canada ? Good ones, maybe one, sucky ones, definitely one - but great ones? That's where I'm moving baby. Two good teams come to mind, but I'm not so sure about them being great.
marlena Posted February 5, 2008 Posted February 5, 2008 Great food, the sea and great historical sites is my idea of a great vacation. And don't forget the sunshine! Ah, and the Greek semi-gods!! But don't tell your boyfriend that!!:laugh:
I Luv the Chariot OH Posted February 6, 2008 Posted February 6, 2008 You will definitely cut down the likelihood of having a successful relationship by rushing it. But, to each his own.
Jilly Bean Posted February 6, 2008 Posted February 6, 2008 I say go for it, K! You sound like you have your life together enough, so that in the (slim) event it doesn't work out, your world wont collapse, and you will fare just fine on your own again. Meaning, its not like your giving up a lot - like a great job, etc. where you are now. Sounds wonderful!
Author Kamille Posted February 6, 2008 Author Posted February 6, 2008 You will definitely cut down the likelihood of having a successful relationship by rushing it. But, to each his own. Thanks for your concern ILTC. I don't know if what I'm aiming for is a successful relationship or if I'm stuck in the present and how much this relationship has already brought me. We wouldn't be having kids for two years at least, which gives us both plenty of time to decide whether or not our partnership is a good one to bring children into. Until then I'm not sure there's much else to do then continue to get to know each other and enjoy each other's company. The relationship could crumble, but I doubt I'll regret what he has already brought me. Sometimes life is about enjoying the present for what it is and making plans on the information that you have. I say go for it, K! You sound like you have your life together enough, so that in the (slim) event it doesn't work out, your world wont collapse, and you will fare just fine on your own again. Meaning, its not like your giving up a lot - like a great job, etc. where you are now. Sounds wonderful! Thanks JB. In the last 12 years I have moved to 6 different cities in 3 different countries (on two continents), always on my own and often not knowing anyone in the new city or country. I know I can handle it if things don't work out.
Jilly Bean Posted February 6, 2008 Posted February 6, 2008 Thanks JB. In the last 12 years I have moved to 6 different cities in 3 different countries (on two continents), always on my own and often not knowing anyone in the new city or country. I know I can handle it if things don't work out. Yeah, Im totally the same way (and have done the same!), which is why you seemed like you can handle yourself just fine if it doesnt work out. What exciting stuff! I want a bf who will take me away after 4 months, too! (yes, Im whining...). lol Congrats!
dropdeadlegs Posted February 6, 2008 Posted February 6, 2008 Do it, Kamille! I know I would in a heartbeat. Like Art, I wouldn't advise this move for just anyone, but I know you aren't impulsive (in a stupid way) and that the bigger risk is in NOT going with him. I'm so happy for you!!
marlena Posted February 6, 2008 Posted February 6, 2008 The relationship could crumble, but I doubt I'll regret what he has already brought me. THIS attitude is perfect. In the last 12 years I have moved to 6 different cities in 3 different countries (on two continents), always on my own and often not knowing anyone in the new city or country. I know I can handle it if things don't work out. .. and so is this one. Way to go, Kamille!
Author Kamille Posted February 6, 2008 Author Posted February 6, 2008 Thanks DDL and Marlena. To top it all off, I religiously read Rob Brezny's horoscropes because sometimes he hits it right on the head. Anyways, my mouth dropped when I read this week's horoscope, which encourages me to give in to my experimental urges rather then my cautious plans. Conclusion: a lucky break will come out of what may seem like an apparent mistake. Well, I'm already a 'throw caution to the wind' kind of person, but I'm glad even astrologers agree it's time to listen to my heart.
I Luv the Chariot OH Posted February 6, 2008 Posted February 6, 2008 The relationship could crumble, but I doubt I'll regret what he has already brought me. I agree with marlena--you will get far with an attitude like this. I truly wish you good luck!
HotPink Posted February 6, 2008 Posted February 6, 2008 I say that you should do whatever makes you happy If it helps, I moved with my man after 3 months and it was the right thing to do. We were very happy. We are long distance again now and things are not so good but when I loved it was great so good luck to you
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