SarahT111 Posted February 4, 2008 Posted February 4, 2008 I Was dumped by my Ex about a month and a half ago after a two year realationship. He dumped me saying he didnt love me anymore and i wasnt a longterm gf. Later that night he got himself a new gf and hasnt contacted me since. I begged him for one day but he was so nasty and cold towards me that i had to stop. I havent contacted him since but i am sooo unhappy. I think about him 24/7 and am totally misrable. On the whole our relationship wasnt perfect but i really loved him. Everything was perfect untill i found emails and txts to other girls implying he had no gf and it would be good to catch up. When i confronted him he turned it around and completly blamed it on me for not trusting him and jumping to conclusions. He got really angry about it and wouldnt talk to me for ages. I tried to sort things out and i thought we were back on track untill he told me a few weeks later (via txt) it was over and then got a new gf that night and shut me out of his life. He used to be so kind and caring and i dont understand how someone could suddenly change and become so nasty and cold. Was it somthing I did? I miss him soo much and a month and a half later i still cry about it every night. I think about him constantly and cant move on with my life. I really would love to hear from anyone else whos gone thru something similar. Will i ever be able to move on? and how long will it take before i stop being so unhappy? I feel like i should try and meet someone new seen he moved so quickly but i just cant bring myself to be with someone else. Is this normal? Amy help or advice would be appreciated as i am really down right now and just cant see myself being happy again!
sandflea Posted February 4, 2008 Posted February 4, 2008 Hi Sarah Well, you're on the right path - but I know it's not ideal right now. It will get better - ask anyone who's been in your shoes (I think we all have on the forum). You're doing the right thing with NC - and you should continue to avoid him. I know you're lonely, but dating right now would be a mistake. Give yourself more time to heal a bit, and to see things in a more reasonable light. First off, it sounds like your ex was kind of a creep, and while it doesn't feel like it right now - your relationship with him wasn't meant to be. Anyone who breaks it off with an email is a jerk, period. I know time seems to be moving slow right now, but things will speed up, and get better - just takes time (I know, I know - THAT old chestnut! LOL!) You're allowed to cry, and scream, and get really pissed off. You're allowed to mourn and rage and vent. Keep venting - especially here, where there's always someone willing to listen. Keep your chin up, kiddo. The worst is over. You're well on your way to finding your happiness again, and meeting someone who's much kinder, and more adult. Just have faith. It'll happen. SF
backspn Posted February 4, 2008 Posted February 4, 2008 Ive been there but after we had been together for 3 years. There is no easy way out of this. Time is all that can heal the pain. It has been 4 years for me and I just started dating again seriously. I had gone on a few dates about a year after but evey girl I met didnt pique my interest. Only you know when you will be able to go out again. The only way you can have a healthy relationship with someone is to come into that relationship with an open heart. You dont have an open heart right now. Practice the NC and in a few weeks you will be able to move on somewhat. Do I still think about her? Sure. Do I want her back? No way! In the long run you will thank yourself for not giving him another chance.
micahmo77 Posted February 7, 2008 Posted February 7, 2008 Just wanted to say keep your head up. Im going through it as well, just like most everyone else on this site. Its been 8 days for me since my girl broke it off with me, together for 4 years. We even went on a trip to Hawaii for a week 3 days prior to that. Found out shes been messing with another guy. Im frigin heart broken beyond belief, even though im a man I feel pathetic, crying and wanting to beg for her back. However this site and the amazing people on here have helped me cope and try and take it day by day to get through. Im attempting the route that most on this site swear by, the NC rule. So I guess give that a shot, dont contact him at all and see what happens. Im to new at all this to give any other advice, but good luck to you girl. Keep your head up
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