silentcharon Posted February 4, 2008 Posted February 4, 2008 Hiya. I've been seeing someone for a while, and ever since school started up again, I've been seeing less of him. Which is fine with me, because I've been busy with school and going out with friends, it's the same thing for him. He complained for a while that I wouldn't "let him in", so I started opening up, telling him about my emotions and all that (I suffer from depression, can't be helped with.). I noticed that he wasn't opening up to me either, so I told him that it wasn't fair to me to open up when he wouldn't do the same in return. I dropped the matter and went on with life, enjoying his company whenever I got the chance to see him. Today, I just got a text message from him saying that he needed space, "I'm sorry, I do. I've tried being there for you." I asked him if he was giving up on me, and he sent back, "That's not quite what I meant. I'm just.. it's too much for me to try to explain right now. I need space for now." I sent back a text message, "Ok. I don't know where you are getting this from- I haven't seen you lately, and you can't say I haven't been around, because you don't let me in. You can have more space." I seriously haven't seen much of him lately, why is he saying he wants space?? I'm just going to give it to him and forget about him for a while. I don't think he's been seeing anyone else, because school takes up a great deal of our time, and I would have known if he was, since we are on the same campus and travel through the same circles of friends. I'm just gonna go NC. Whatever this is, it's his problem and I obviously can't help him with whatever he's got going on, because I HAVE NO CLUE, because HE WON'T TELL ME.
KittenMoon Posted February 4, 2008 Posted February 4, 2008 SC! Long time no see! Kudos on the dating (guess who still isn't <---). So- is this guy worth the trouble? Of not? (And please tell me this guy isn't related at all to that tangled mess w/ your former reasons for being on LS. )
LucreziaBorgia Posted February 4, 2008 Posted February 4, 2008 In this case, "I need space" sounds like a 'soft' breakup. I would go to NC and simply move on. I think that is what he is hoping for so that he doesn't have to be the one to do the deed.
mistie03 Posted February 4, 2008 Posted February 4, 2008 I have gone NC for 3 weeks. I wish he had the b*!&$ to least say he needed space. He didn't. He just started treating me like he didn't give a crap. NC has really been the best thing. I am concentrating on me. I started working out and hanging with friends. It really helps.
Author silentcharon Posted February 5, 2008 Author Posted February 5, 2008 I'm starting to think he's not worth it. And, nope, Km, I'm done with my ex. This is someone I met at school just after I got back last year. I decided to put school on hold so I could sort my personal life out, because I was pretty messed up. So when I felt ready to come back, I met him shortly after through a mutual friend. This is my third boy ever since my ex and it's literally been two years now, not bad, eh? LB, you're probably right- it's best to go NC. No, I'll just dump him, so that we're clear that he's not leaving me wondering. I just find the whole thing bizzare.
KittenMoon Posted February 5, 2008 Posted February 5, 2008 I'm starting to think he's not worth it. And, nope, Km, I'm done with my ex. This is someone I met at school just after I got back last year. I decided to put school on hold so I could sort my personal life out, because I was pretty messed up. So when I felt ready to come back, I met him shortly after through a mutual friend. This is my third boy ever since my ex and it's literally been two years now, not bad, eh?. Better than me, I'm still on ZERO. Glad to see you back though, and doing ok. I mean, if this guy isn't worth it- well, you and I know all the crap you've already been though. **** it, you don't need more. Live crap & drama free!
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