I tried to be strong and mature....

[catskeepmesane]

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Quick background, my GF and I of 1 year broke up over Christmas; it was mutual but for me very painful. Within a couple of days she was off sleeping with other people and that really hurt. We lived in a small town together and there was no way I could stay and see her everyday so I left for a month and had NC. I went back a couple of days ago to collect my stuff and tried to avoid her but it did not work. She was all happy and clearly very pleased to see me. She kept asking me to have a drink with her and talk. Each time I said no but she asked about 6 times.. She then says not wanting to talk to her makes it seem like I never cared for her!

 

As I say I tried to be mature but I snapped back about how she was off with other guys withing a couple of days of us splitting up. This she did not like one bit and tried to cloud the issue but never actually denied - she can't because we both know its true....She then stomped off and that is the last time I will ever see her.

 

So I am gone backwards in my recovery and feeling upset and crap. But one good thing is there was at least some kind of sign that she is affected by the break up and therefore did care for me. At least I know the last year was not a waste and I wasn't a blind idiot.

 

But all I can say is to you - learn from my lesson, stick to NC, it is really the only road to recovery. I had to break it and I am a case study in how that messes you around....I won't be breaking it again.

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[Cannondale]

^Yeah it's very tough man. I wasn't in a relationship for that long, but I know what it feels like when the girl you broke up just goes out and sleeps with some other guy after the break up, it's pretty screwed up imo.

NC is deff. the best way to go, I find every time I talk to my ex it's like taking 2 steps backwards even if it's just small talk, overall not worth it.

You'll get through this though bud, your better off without her, and she obv. didn't deserve you.