THE THRONE Posted February 4, 2008 Posted February 4, 2008 (edited) Ladies, say you flirt with a guy and the two of you have some chemistry but you've never been on a date. Lets say the guy was laid back, reserved, and not the clingy type that is always in your face. In fact, lets say that sometimes when this guy see's you he acts as if you don't even exist (but not in a rude way) or he keeps everything short and brief. Now consider the fact that Valentines Day is coming up, and you do have some chemistry with the guy. Would you feel weird if he flirted or joked with you about you getting him something for Valentines Day? What if you didn't say, "what are you going to get me?" and he ended up making you a home made Valentines Day card that resembled something a first grader made (I'm talking backwards letters written with crayola crayons and a heart made with hershey chocolate wrappers or actual hershey chocolate candies) what would you do? Would you think he was wrong or would you think he was clever for doing something original and keeping it funny? Considering you haven't gone out with the guy, would you prefer this, or something original and with some thought to it, over the box of chocolates and teddy bear routine? THE THRONE needs answers before he consults the book of the Seven-Legged Lamb as he is having a debate about this very situation. Edited February 4, 2008 by THE THRONE
Walk Posted February 4, 2008 Posted February 4, 2008 Love the post Throne. I'd definitely prefer the handmade valentine with the humor thrown in. If you made her a serious one, it might be a little too much for someone you're just causally getting to know. Plus, it'll give you an idea of what type of woman she is. If she gets huffy about it being handmade, not store bought expensive crap, then you'll have a really good idea of where you'd like the relationship to be in the long term. But honestly, I would love the card with backward crayon writing. IF you do it right. It has to show you put a lot of thought and effort into it to counteract the silly crayon writing. If she can see there was obvious effort put into making it, AND that you have a sense of humor, then I think you'll be golden. If it comes off as a last minute, you couldn't bother to put more then 2 seconds into it, then she'll assume you don't give a crap about her and she'll turn her attention to someone else.
blind_otter Posted February 4, 2008 Posted February 4, 2008 If I'd never been on a date with the guy, I would be creeped out by a v-day gesture.
quankanne Posted February 4, 2008 Posted February 4, 2008 if said card was from someone I was well-acquainted with, possibly even flirted a little with, yeah, I'd be touched by the gesture, because I'm a sucker for stuff like that. But that's me – you need to find out what her tastes are before surprising her, even if it's something as simple as a card. and, as Otter points out, you really should know this girl, and not just spring a card on her from out of the blue – homemade or otherwise – because that's just a little to freaky. And not in the good sense!
norajane Posted February 4, 2008 Posted February 4, 2008 In fact, lets say that sometimes when this guy see's you he acts as if you don't even exist (but not in a rude way) If a guy does that, then no, I would not appreciate getting anything from him. That said, flowers would be a better way to go with me, especially in that situation. A handmade card is too much, too personal, from someone I am not dating, although would be lovely to receive from someone I am dating (in addition to flowers, it would be the best gift ever).
EYECANDY000 Posted February 4, 2008 Posted February 4, 2008 If a guy never really paid any attention to me and then on valentines day gave me the impression that he was interested in me I would be a little confused to know what his motives is. or I would think he is just being flirty because its Valentines day
Author THE THRONE Posted February 4, 2008 Author Posted February 4, 2008 THE THRONE will give a more in depth reply when he returns to THRONEVILLE. For now, THE THRONE must venture outside of THRONEVILLE and deal with the dregs of society, apostates and non-believers. Thanks for all the replies.
nicki Posted February 4, 2008 Posted February 4, 2008 THRONE, you make me smile with the whole "THE THRONE WANTS TO ASK A QUESTION. THE THRONE NEEDS TO GO DEAL WITH THE PEASANTS NOW" stuff. :laugh: Seriously, though, I don't know about the card. I can see you pulling it off if you two have been flirting. But, if THE THRONE has been acting aloof and not interested then it could be confusing to her. Have you been getting any green lights from her? Does she seem into you? Then your card might be welcome. If she's acting as aloof as you are, then how about just asking her out instead of giving her a card....or give her the homemade crayon one, and add on the bottom "Will you go out with me Sat night. Check yes or no." I also like the idea of handing her a flower, but not a rose, maybe a nice big bright gerber daisy....and then just smile at her.
amaysngrace Posted February 4, 2008 Posted February 4, 2008 It sounds like desperation for two lonelies to get together for Valentine's Day rather than be alone. It sounds strange to me.
4givrnt4gtr Posted February 4, 2008 Posted February 4, 2008 ....or give her the homemade crayon one, and add on the bottom "Will you go out with me Sat night. Check yes or no." . Aw totally cute..but then im into silly stuff like that, so i dont know. I do like it that it goes with the whole crayola/hershey's kiss thing....very cute.
Author THE THRONE Posted February 4, 2008 Author Posted February 4, 2008 I'm back from the cruel world and ready to post. Love the post Throne. I'd definitely prefer the handmade valentine with the humor thrown in. If you made her a serious one, it might be a little too much for someone you're just causally getting to know. Plus, it'll give you an idea of what type of woman she is. If she gets huffy about it being handmade, not store bought expensive crap, then you'll have a really good idea of where you'd like the relationship to be in the long term. But honestly, I would love the card with backward crayon writing. IF you do it right. It has to show you put a lot of thought and effort into it to counteract the silly crayon writing. If she can see there was obvious effort put into making it, AND that you have a sense of humor, then I think you'll be golden. If it comes off as a last minute, you couldn't bother to put more then 2 seconds into it, then she'll assume you don't give a crap about her and she'll turn her attention to someone else. THE THRONE doesn't think she would be offended if the card was homemade. She doesn't wear a lot of jewelry (earrings only), doesn't wear a lot of makeup (eye shadow here and there), and keeps her nails short although they are taken care of. She doesn't strike THE THRONE as a woman who prefers cost over thought, but THE THRONE doesn't really know her that well so he could be wrong. If I'd never been on a date with the guy, I would be creeped out by a v-day gesture. Have you ever received a v-day card while you were in high school? Did you go out with the person? if said card was from someone I was well-acquainted with, possibly even flirted a little with, yeah, I'd be touched by the gesture, because I'm a sucker for stuff like that. But that's me – you need to find out what her tastes are before surprising her, even if it's something as simple as a card. and, as Otter points out, you really should know this girl, and not just spring a card on her from out of the blue – homemade or otherwise – because that's just a little to freaky. And not in the good sense! Nah, THE THRONE would mention it to her so she would be aware of it. If a guy does that, then no, I would not appreciate getting anything from him. That said, flowers would be a better way to go with me, especially in that situation. A handmade card is too much, too personal, from someone I am not dating, although would be lovely to receive from someone I am dating (in addition to flowers, it would be the best gift ever). THE THRONE is not interested in giving women flowers right now. Flowers are symbolic of many things, and many people don't know that certain colors of certain flowers (like a red rose or yellow rose for example) mean certain things. If she were given flowers she would start assuming, and this is why THE THRONE believes it is best to keep it light and funny. If a guy never really paid any attention to me and then on valentines day gave me the impression that he was interested in me I would be a little confused to know what his motives is. or I would think he is just being flirty because its Valentines day No, he pays attention to her, he doesn't pay attention to her all the time. He doesn't go grinning in her face everytime he see's her and he is comfortable giving her the space she needs. THRONE, you make me smile with the whole "THE THRONE WANTS TO ASK A QUESTION. THE THRONE NEEDS TO GO DEAL WITH THE PEASANTS NOW" stuff. :laugh: Seriously, though, I don't know about the card. I can see you pulling it off if you two have been flirting. But, if THE THRONE has been acting aloof and not interested then it could be confusing to her. Have you been getting any green lights from her? Does she seem into you? Then your card might be welcome. If she's acting as aloof as you are, then how about just asking her out instead of giving her a card....or give her the homemade crayon one, and add on the bottom "Will you go out with me Sat night. Check yes or no." I also like the idea of handing her a flower, but not a rose, maybe a nice big bright gerber daisy....and then just smile at her. Nikki, THE THRONE wishes he could make every woman smile, and while he knows he can't, he is pleased to know that he at least put a smile on your face . THE THRONE has flirted with her, and she flirts back, but THE THRONE doesn't do it all the time. Some days he see's her and flirts, but on other days he see's her and goes about his business. He does this because he wants to send her the message that he is not clingy or needy. It sounds like desperation for two lonelies to get together for Valentine's Day rather than be alone. It sounds strange to me. No, THE THRONE is not desperate and neither is she. If they were both desperate they would both settle for less, and this isn't the case. THE THRONE has no problem being alone on Valentines Day as it has happened before.
blind_otter Posted February 4, 2008 Posted February 4, 2008 Have you ever received a v-day card while you were in high school? Did you go out with the person? yes; no. I didn't date in HS - I was way too emotionally immature.
Author THE THRONE Posted February 4, 2008 Author Posted February 4, 2008 yes; no. I didn't date in HS - I was way too emotionally immature. So you were creeped out by the gesture? If you were, does that mean you're still emotionally immature?
CD111 Posted February 5, 2008 Posted February 5, 2008 If I was aware that the guy was interested in me on some level I would like the card much better then the conventional cookie cutter pick of V-Day presents. It is a much lighter approach then flowers, which I wouldn't mind. If I guy would jokingly ask me about what I was getting him, it would give me some assurance that he was interested in me. Not a bad thing to know. If however, I had no clue that this guy was interested in me I would definitely be surprised, but also thrown off a bit. Good luck with it
blind_otter Posted February 5, 2008 Posted February 5, 2008 So you were creeped out by the gesture? If you were, does that mean you're still emotionally immature? Yes I was creeped out by the gesture. No, I'm no longer emotionally immature. By that comment I meant that I was unable to handle the rigors of a committed relationship when I was a mere teenager. Besides the fact that I really focused on school and extracurricular activities. Nowadays I am in a stable LTR and have been for nearly 3 years.
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