anya85 Posted February 4, 2008 Posted February 4, 2008 Ok, so two days ago my crush started a fight with me online, over AIM. It was completely unexpected and out of nowhere, which makes me think it had been something he'd been thinking about beforehand. What was so surprising is that the subject-matter had NOTHING to do with him. It was about me. It was a big long rant about ME. For some back story, me and this guy use to be co-workers for a long time. We were mildlly flirtatious, but both involved with other people so nothing happened. Then just out of no where, a few months ago, he starts contacting me online. We haven't seen each other in person for like 5 months. This goes well and we appear to be getting closer, often talking for over an hour or more each time. I eventually tell him that I use to have a "thing" for him, he responds that he had known, but never pursued anything because we were seeing other people and that no one who hadn't been interested would have put up with all of his teasing for so long. He indicates a dislike for a guy I started dating while we worked together and asks why I never "found out if he(this guy) was interested before dating this other guy". Which is dumb because this guy had a girlfriend then??? Any way, after I tell him this, he becomes even closer to me, we talk for longer and about more secretive, personal things. We really seem to be doing well, one night we talked for 2 and a half hours. Then comes the fight, just out of no where. He had been drinking, granted. The next day after this really good conversation, he starts talking to me but appears annoyed. Just so you will know, my relationship with this guy has always been a playful one. We tease each other, *playfully* talk about being able to beat each other up, it's all in fun. Any way, he says that I "like teasing people because it makes them stay distant." and that "if I allowed someone to get close to me, I'd be afraid that they wouldn't like me". He continues that I "am afraid to date a REAL man because I fear he may not put up with my crap" and that I therefore "date little wussy cowards". Then he goes on this HUGE rant about my ex(another co-worker of ours, this guy knew him before I even did) saying "he didn't know sh*t", "you liked him because you could wrap him around your finger" and that he had "the mind of a child". Then he gets mad at me saying that I spent all this time complaining about my ex(then boyfriend) to him when I should have just dumped him, but that I was too much a coward to assert myself. Then he's like "I'm just pointing out the inconsistancies, your highness" and "you shouldn't have said you liked to argue if you didn't mean it. I guess you meant you liked arguing with men with no backbone". I, naturally, take this as an attack and become defensive, telling him that this is MY business and that he needs to stay out of it because he doesn't know everything or me. He backs off after awhile but still isn't "normal". Then we log off for the night. It just leaves me wondering where on earth did this come from? He's fine one day and then "attacks" me with this junk the next? I don't know if he likes me or if he can't stand me. I just have no idea why he was so MAD, it had nothing to do with him. Advice?
TigerCub Posted February 4, 2008 Posted February 4, 2008 well to be fair, its not completely none of his business since you did bring him into it by complaining about your ex to him. (Well that's what I understood from your post) But...it seems that he was just probably saying all the things that were frustrating him at the time (when you were dating your ex) and he liked you, and the only reason he said things was probably because he was drunk - its not an excuse, but that's probably what happened. I'm guessing he liked you, and he heard about all the stuff between you and your ex and at the time he thought 'why doesn't she dump this loser' because he liked you.
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