onmyownagain Posted February 3, 2008 Posted February 3, 2008 Until my new flat etc. is sorted I only get to see my daughter at weekends. She really reminds me of her mum and it is so weird. Also, they text each other about things and I feel out of the loop. It is really hard because although I know the split is for the best I am still hurting a lot as it has only been a month since we parted after 12 years of marriage. Seeing her is a bit of a mixed blessing because I don't feel this way when she is at home but she will be coming to be every week for a whole week when I move into my flat so need to sort this out somehow.
Politico Posted February 3, 2008 Posted February 3, 2008 She really reminds me of her mum and it is so weird. My oldest daughter, who is now 31, looks exactly like her mother did at the same age (and that's a good thing) and also acts very much like her in many ways (not such a good thing), right down to control issues. Fortunately, I love her in spite of herself -- my daughter, NOT the ex. You're still going through a major adjustment. It will get better!
amaysngrace Posted February 3, 2008 Posted February 3, 2008 My daughter looks just like her dad, my exH. I love it. I always loved his face and now I get to see his face everyday without seeing HIM!
Politico Posted February 3, 2008 Posted February 3, 2008 ...and now I get to see his face everyday without seeing HIM! The ex was a beautiful woman on the outside but less than beautiful on the inside. I have no desire for a daily reminder of her, or any reminder at all for that matter. I see my daughter as herself. It was only the OPs title line that made me equate her with the ex. But my daughter and her family live about two hours away and the ex lives two days away so all is well!
Citizen Erased Posted February 3, 2008 Posted February 3, 2008 Oh can I relate. I not only look like my mother but we are alike in alot of ways. My dad despises her and so I get the nice little effects of that. It is understandable you see your ex in your daughter, but don't let her suffer for that. It may hurt to look at her, but it will hurt her more to know she has that effect on you.
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