CaliGuy Posted February 3, 2008 Posted February 3, 2008 Valentine's Day is coming up. Even if you have to lock yourself in a closet to resist contacting your ex, DO IT. Speaking from personal experience and someone who is and has been committed to NC, you're much better off without your ex. You just don't realize it yet. Valentine's Day should be considered EVIL while your are under NC. And I'm sending Vinny to bust your kneecaps if you break NC during this wicked, wicked day.
Nemo Posted February 3, 2008 Posted February 3, 2008 Valentine's Day is coming up. Even if you have to lock yourself in a closet to resist contacting your ex, DO IT. I hope my closet has an ensuite, or this could get messy.
Storyrider Posted February 3, 2008 Posted February 3, 2008 I hope my closet has an ensuite, or this could get messy. You're going to scare Oasis!
SeraBella Posted February 3, 2008 Posted February 3, 2008 With all of these threads mentioning Valentine's Day, I feel like the only person on here who thinks of the day as nothing more than a reason to hang the cute heart decoration on the front door. Oh, and it's an excuse to eat heart shaped chalk candy.
sedgwick Posted February 3, 2008 Posted February 3, 2008 I highly recommend doing something fun with a single friend. My best friend and I are going out of town for the day. I thought the best thing to do was to have plans that I'd look forward to -- plans that would keep me away from the phone or computer.
PinkRibbon Posted February 3, 2008 Posted February 3, 2008 Is Vinny good looking??? Then go ahead and send him...I need a Valentines even if he is a knee cap breaker!
JustinWolf Posted February 3, 2008 Posted February 3, 2008 It's her bday and then Valentine's day. One of my friends bday is the same day as her. He gets a Happy Bday wish on Facebook, she doesn't! muahahaha... I feel I should send something but... after what she did.... she don't deserve it! Rock on!
cant let go Posted February 3, 2008 Posted February 3, 2008 for the records I HATE VALENTINE'S DAY!!!!!! always have thought it was a bunch of bull$h!t, an obligatory holiday.
s_n_d Posted February 3, 2008 Posted February 3, 2008 Thanks CaliGuy, I really needed that. I initially planned on sending my ex a LONG, heartfelt love letter on Valentines day but then I thought about it A LOT and decided that HE needs to be writing ME a love letter after all hes done to me... This Valentines day is definitely going to be hard but I dont intend on breaking NC anytime soon.
LoveLace Posted February 4, 2008 Posted February 4, 2008 Oh my gosh, I wouldn't think of calling my Ex on V-Day, any more than I think of calling him on an ordinary day...guess that's due to the nature of our break-up, though...and I don't miss him at all. But even if I did miss him, I wouldn't feel comfortable calling him on that day, I'd feel pathetic. If your going to call your Ex on Valentines day you might as well say "I still love you and I want you back".
s_n_d Posted February 4, 2008 Posted February 4, 2008 If your going to call your Ex on Valentines day you might as well say "I still love you and I want you back". Hahaha. Been there..Done that. But Im going to resist every urge of contacting him on Valentines day. HE needs to contact me.
Art_Critic Posted February 4, 2008 Posted February 4, 2008 How about if everyone calls Caliguy instead ? I agree CG.. Valentines is a day for lovers.. not ex lovers..
LoveLace Posted February 4, 2008 Posted February 4, 2008 I think if someone calls an Ex on that day it's more because they just want to have someone to call...and the Ex happens to be the only nominated person. Call a friend instead!
Author CaliGuy Posted February 4, 2008 Author Posted February 4, 2008 How about if everyone calls Caliguy instead ? I agree CG.. Valentines is a day for lovers.. not ex lovers.. I'd like that Yeah, why waste your time thinking about someone who isn't missing you?! Spend it with someone who WANTS to be with you. Spend it thinking about someone who WANTS to be with you. Don't waste your time (or any part of your life) on people who don't appreciate it. (And if you're hot, Pink Ribbon, my name is Vinny!)
Jackieboy Posted February 4, 2008 Posted February 4, 2008 I agree with CaliGuy, Valentines Day is a catch penny right up there with Secretaries Day (For Gods sake!) No Contact works, stick with it, Valentines just another day, ignore it and move on! Stay strong people!
Jackieboy Posted February 4, 2008 Posted February 4, 2008 By the way I see someone has put 'No Foolin' back up on the list. Read what he has to say all you doubters of no contact who will be tempted by Valentines. He will put you straight in no uncertain terms, the man has a fantastic way of putting everything into perspective:)
Author CaliGuy Posted February 5, 2008 Author Posted February 5, 2008 +1 on No Foolin. His advice should be required reading for those experiencing a break up.
Haohmaru Posted February 5, 2008 Posted February 5, 2008 I lucked out. I just hit the ANGER part of my breakup coping stage...so I will feel no inclination whatsoever to contact my recent ex over V-Day. (Her birthday is the day before too, so it would have been a double whammy) It was funny too. Just hit me like a wave hits a surfer. I was all thinking about the good things and then suddenly, I get angry, and suspicious, and start seeing all the bad stuff all at once. This is kind of fun...now I know what it's like to be a girl!
Belkin Posted February 5, 2008 Posted February 5, 2008 Well, if only the "breakup stages" were so well defined! But for me it's much less clear... I can be crushed by the idea that she now loves someone else, then almost happy to be "free," then really mad and disgusted at her and her behavior, and then back to step one... Don't know if that's the same for you out there... It just seems that over time the "crushed stage" is less frequent and lasts less. I think you truely get over a breakup once you manage to fall in love with someone else.
Art_Critic Posted February 5, 2008 Posted February 5, 2008 Well, if only the "breakup stages" were so well defined! But for me it's much less clear... I can be crushed by the idea that she now loves someone else, then almost happy to be "free," then really mad and disgusted at her and her behavior, and then back to step one... Don't know if that's the same for you out there... It just seems that over time the "crushed stage" is less frequent and lasts less. I think you truely get over a breakup once you manage to fall in love with someone else. No Contact means no stages that they have control over.. and the stages are the same.. No contact means no new hurts... ( too quote another LS member )
PLAYBRAT Posted February 5, 2008 Posted February 5, 2008 Valentine's Day should be outlawed.LOL Why not have a special day for SINGLE people, or ones who have been dumped??? All V-Day does is remind those who are NOT with someone how lousy they feel..or even more alone. Sorry if I seem cynical, I just always thought V-day was kinda ridiculous. In a relationship EVERY day should be like V-day.:love:
Haohmaru Posted February 5, 2008 Posted February 5, 2008 I think you truely get over a breakup once you manage to fall in love with someone else. Amen to that, and the person I choose to fall in love with is...ME!! Valentine's Day should be outlawed.LOL Why not have a special day for SINGLE people, or ones who have been dumped??? :love: AMEN TO THAT, and that special day is...TODAY!!!
Gala Posted February 10, 2008 Posted February 10, 2008 CG - Thanks for this. A few weeks ago the situation with an ancient flame/ longtime friend became more complicated. It is pretty clear that he is in no shape for a relationship, and that I must let things go. I've started NC, and I know the week to come may be especially tough. I've already made plans for a girls' night out on the 14th, which will help...and I'll be away for the 3-day weekend. But we can all use more support...
PinkRibbon Posted February 10, 2008 Posted February 10, 2008 I have already bought my Anti-Valentines Day cards for my friends. They will get a kick out of them. All my friends are married except for one and my and my daughter will be joining her for dinner and a movie that night. I did buy my daughter cute valentines stuff. Can't ruin her day.
Author CaliGuy Posted February 11, 2008 Author Posted February 11, 2008 Hey now that's a good idea for those wondering what to do. Have a girls night out (for the ladies of course) and for the guys, go get a beer and watch a game
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