lillizzi22 Posted February 3, 2008 Posted February 3, 2008 I dont know what the hell we are. its been that way for three years.we have always had a very special connection but still continued to see date other people. we've always thought it could never work b/c we were too similar.too make a long story short we just cant stop talking to eachother, we always find a way back into the others life. we have both fallin in and out of love with other people over these years as well but always come back to eachother. anyway after not talking to eachother again for a month. he called out of the blue apologizing about ever leading me on or hurting me. he then proceeded to tell me he came to a realization he has some childhood issues he needs to deal with about his mom. the next day he bought my plane ticket to come stay with him for the week. is was an up and down week. one minute were acting like a couple, the next minute he has his guard up.he explained that he has a problem with intimacy, which i already knew and to let him come to me. he has always told me he wants to marry me and then he'll change his mind saying i dunno IF i'm going to marry you. fastfoward to this weekend we both flew back to nashville, ended up running into eachother at a club and when my girl asked him what our title was, he said she's my UNOFFICIAL girlfriend but earlier that week he referred to me as his homegirl. I am so tired of his wishy washy ways. cansomeone tell me what is really going on in his head about me. he did make a comment that he runs because i remind him of hisself. his friends have called me the female version of him.
Geishawhelk Posted February 3, 2008 Posted February 3, 2008 Ask yourself what you want. Ask yourself if he can suppy it. if the answer is no, then look elsewhere. My opinion? you're not in Love. It's an addiction, not a relationship. You'r co-dependent. A safe haven for each other, but no good as a couple. You are the ideal person on which to offload, and the right girl to dangle on a string and jerk you close, and push you away when it suits him. And you let him, because you feel needed and useful. Stay friends, but drop the physical side altogether. It's up to you. You can remain in this wishy-washy-mish-mash-if-yes-but-so-so-yo-yo liaison, if you want to. But it's going nowhere fast, isn't it? Don't you think you could find something more fulfilling and wholesome out there?
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