Never_Sure Posted February 3, 2008 Posted February 3, 2008 Who else is feeling depressed about the upcoming holiday and why? My reasons for having the V-Day Blues...let's see: 23 years old and single.All of my friends are going out with their love interests.No one to buy me candy, flowers, etc.Did I mention 23 and single?I know it is stupid, but I've been single for a while now, and am just really depressed. I just realized that all three of my previous boyfriends and I have broken up right before or right after Christmas, and we usually start going out in March. I haven't had one last a full year, and NEVER have I had a date on Valentine's Day! This is so depressing... Okay, I'm done lamenting. Anyone else wish to share his/her Valentine's Day woes?
Nemo Posted February 3, 2008 Posted February 3, 2008 That's incredibly depressing. Thanks for posting your story, and bringing the rest of us down with you.
padder83 Posted February 3, 2008 Posted February 3, 2008 yo sister, i also have been unable to have a relationship longer than a year (always seams to end around 9months, for some reason seriously!hehe),sometimes ive dumped and sometimes ive been dumped. im only 24 myself and yea my friends have partners for valentines so i prob feel a bit down about that but i try take the good things about bein unattached,ur free to visit all ur attached mates but maybe they cant do the same, i know thats true in mycase as the friends partners dont reely mix, so in a way i get to see everyone....personally im much more disillusoned about where were heading as a generation so much has happend so fast here in ireland that its kinda scary& leaves one feeling isolated at times and that people are inspired to be fake and be on t.v etc, but maybe thats just a trend, it effects how both men and women act,...popular culture...you know? hope all is well with you!
Fettman Posted February 3, 2008 Posted February 3, 2008 Being single for the past.....hmmm, ever, it tends do get a little down that day. But then I get over it and go one with my day, until I start seeing couples around and such and then its back into the dumps yet again. Its no fun being single, but then again if I suddenly got into a relationship I would probley suck at being a bf....oh well. Just remember one thing though, it could always be alot worse.
Uptowngirl834 Posted February 3, 2008 Posted February 3, 2008 Valentine's Day is just another day. Go out with some of your single friends, or go somewhere you know that single people will be hanging out and stop feeling sorry for yourself. Get out there and meet people. Many people boycott V-Day because it has just become a commercialized "holiday" anyways. Restaurants are the only places you should avoid on V-Day. If you're friends aren't around, take a bubble bath, pamper yourself, buy a nice bottle of wine and chocolates for yourself and enjoy!
dutchie Posted February 3, 2008 Posted February 3, 2008 Who cares about VDay? It has become less about the sentiment and more about the crap your man HAS to do for you. There is nothing romantic in a contrived holiday, IMHO. Pamper yourself! Who needs a man for that? Rent a good movie, eat some chocolate, wine, whatever....or maybe go see a production of the Vagina Monologues? In the meantime, get out and meet people and stop feeling sorry for yourself, as uptowngirl said. And BTW, 23 and single is good. You have plenty of time to find a guy...You don't think you are too old or something? Ha. Don't even get me started.
Author Never_Sure Posted February 3, 2008 Author Posted February 3, 2008 You're right: I am feeling sorry for myself! I don't have any single friends! All of my friends are either dating, or MARRIED. I didn't think 23 was old, until my 5th year high school reunion and EVERYONE is married. Granted, I did go to a hick school. Still! What's wrong with me that I can't stay with one person for a year, let alone on Valentine's Day! I boycotted for long enough. I act like the biggest cynic when it comes to this romantic holiday, but the truth is: I want a MAN! I have pampered myself on V-Day for the past 23 years; I'm getting bored with myself! I want candy, a card, and SEX for V-Day! Hahaha, okay, I'll be optimistic: maybe next year...right?
jimbo101 Posted February 7, 2008 Posted February 7, 2008 U are not alone...I'm 23 years old too..Valentine's Day is a scary day for me since i was rejected by a girl two years ago.I'm still missing her now but she has a new boyfriend. I wish i can be with her during Valentine's Day but i got to accept the fact that we can't no longer be together...impossible, since she rejected me not because of she doesn't have special feelings to me, but just because of my shyness to date her out! I feel very lonely now without friends. I don't know how to "survive" during Valentine's Day. I bet she will hanging out with her boyfriend enjoying on Valentine's Day while i'm alone here...i don't wanna know...
LucreziaBorgia Posted February 7, 2008 Posted February 7, 2008 Who else is feeling depressed about the upcoming holiday and why? Anyone else wish to share his/her Valentine's Day woes? VD is two days after my next chemo treatment. I don't have a romantic interest in my life (not a reliable one anyway ). I will be too sick to enjoy the day anyway even if I did have someone.
starlite Posted February 7, 2008 Posted February 7, 2008 V-Day is tough. I just had a bad break up four months ago! I am seeing someone new, but on V-day it will only be a month that we have been casually seeing eachother so I decided to not bring it up and expect nothing. I might pick up a book i know he wants just in case he does anything, but as of right now...I have no plans. If he doesnt ask me to do something, I have every intention on getting take out and either going to a gf's house or watching a Sex and the City marathon. I already know they guy I am seeing has a sport Thursday night, so like I said...I expect nothing. It's a bit soon for a Vday celebration.
e.clipse Posted February 8, 2008 Posted February 8, 2008 You're right: I am feeling sorry for myself! I don't have any single friends! All of my friends are either dating, or MARRIED. I didn't think 23 was old, until my 5th year high school reunion and EVERYONE is married. Granted, I did go to a hick school. Still! What's wrong with me that I can't stay with one person for a year, let alone on Valentine's Day! I boycotted for long enough. I act like the biggest cynic when it comes to this romantic holiday, but the truth is: I want a MAN! I have pampered myself on V-Day for the past 23 years; I'm getting bored with myself! I want candy, a card, and SEX for V-Day! Hahaha, okay, I'll be optimistic: maybe next year...right? oh, i feel ya. completely. since after high school, all of my friends have moved to live in other cities. in fact, the closest one lives in a city that is 45 minutes away, when the traffic is good. and not only that, but, like yours, they are all either in (surprisingly) good relationships or married. so, given their distance and their status, it makes it really hard for me to see them, and that bums me out very much. Valentine's Day is, what, a week from today? ugh. it would be nice to spend it with someone, even some single friends, if only to drown out the feeling of loneliness. all of the cynicism against Valentine's Day is just a wall people have built in order to not (or seem to not) feel so bad, i think. sure, you can rent yourself your favorite movie, throw yourself a relaxing bubble bath, and buy yourself your favorite chocolates, but after doing that for a while, it just isn't the same; it would simply be nice to receive them from someone else, from someone special. i don't think it's so much that we pathetically "need" a man or anything like that, but rather that we long a special type of bond and companionship that can only thrive with two individuals. to have a certain someone buy you a flower or a chocolate, give you a hug, and spend the evening with you would be great. sure you can do some of these things for yourself, but ultimately that warmth that you seek, you cannot give yourself. and yes, these things can be done on other days, and they surely are when one is in a good relationship, but that doesn't make Valentine's Day any less special, i don't think. it is just the 1 day out of the normal 365 where the romantic love between you and your SO (and also the love between your and your friends) get its own little date on the calendar. and i happen to think that is sweet. but oh well. maybe next year, eh? sigh.
jimbo101 Posted February 8, 2008 Posted February 8, 2008 VD is two days after my next chemo treatment. I don't have a romantic interest in my life (not a reliable one anyway ). I will be too sick to enjoy the day anyway even if I did have someone. hang in there...
jimbo101 Posted February 8, 2008 Posted February 8, 2008 Valentine's Day is just another day. Go out with some of your single friends, or go somewhere you know that single people will be hanging out and stop feeling sorry for yourself. Get out there and meet people. Many people boycott V-Day because it has just become a commercialized "holiday" anyways. Restaurants are the only places you should avoid on V-Day. If you're friends aren't around, take a bubble bath, pamper yourself, buy a nice bottle of wine and chocolates for yourself and enjoy! Great point but how long we can do this?
Ms. Red Posted February 8, 2008 Posted February 8, 2008 I all ready posted this in another thread last month. I have a friend who gets depressed on all holidays since he's single. Last year I made a personal card to him that said, "Who needs a Valentine when you can have Vodka!" (his fav drink) And then ended it with Happy Un-Valentines Day. I was recently separated from my H so I wasn't in the luvy mood for V-day. I covered the envelope with heart stickers & X'd them out with a sharpie. I succeeded in cheering him & myself up with that card. Never_Sure, do something that will cheer you up that shows love for something you like. If you like animals, take some old blankets to the local animal shelter & play with the kittens & puppies through the cages while your there. I know, go get a bouquet of helium heart shaped balloons & suck the helium out & rant about V-day. You'll be laughing so hard you won't have time to be depressed. LoL You'll figure something out. Take Care
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