Knights Posted February 3, 2008 Posted February 3, 2008 (edited) Ok so when i knocked off work there was a text on my phone from the ex, just a simple message of "Hi, what are you up to?" it's been 48 hours since i talked to her and 3 days since she left. Do i reply or do i just ignore it for awhile, play it casual when i do reply, or do i tell her that an ex from long ago is wanting to go away over easter for a series of concerts and wants me to go with her or do i just ignore it completly? After a couple of pieces of advice in other posts i think i should tell how i feel about her and see how it goes, but i don't want her getting weird or saying it's over deal with it and then never talking to me again. Ok now for something completly different, i saw an ex from years ago at a mates wedding recently, the physical attraction wasn't there but the conversation flowed like it used to, since then we have been talking on and off over the last month, i told her the current partner had just left and as soon as i told her she was wanting me to go on holiday with her over ester, i want to go but i'm afraid if i do she'll get the wrong idea, i mean she'd make a great friend but i'm not sure we'd be any good together, besides i want my current ex back. The relationship never really ended we just stopped talking, she was doing her masters at the time, didn't really have enough time for a partner and we drifted apart, no one got hurt, she even apologised for letting it end like that when i saw her again. So how do i tell that while i want to go away with her over easter i just want to be friends and hang out? Can that even be achieved if i do go away with her over easter? Thanks. Edited February 3, 2008 by Knights
Author Knights Posted February 3, 2008 Author Posted February 3, 2008 Anyway after i didn't reply she then texted back again asking what i was upto. I decided to text back, told her about the ex wanting me to go away over easter, don't think she was to happy, she said go away if it's seperate beds etc etc. Now i'm going to try and play it relaxed, i'm going out for a few beers, leaving my phone at home so i don't say anything stupid. Not sure if i'm handling it the right way, the last thing i said to her was i'm going out and i might talk to her tomorrow if work wasn't to crazy, i have no intention of getting in touch, i've decided that she can do the contacting and i'll see how that works out. Hopefully she doesn't think i'm over her, thats not what i want but i don't want her thinking that all i'm doing is sitting around waiting to hear from her/thinking about her non stop/listening to music that makes me think of her either.
sedgwick Posted February 3, 2008 Posted February 3, 2008 Tell your ex exactly that: you want to go away for Easter but right now you're not ready to be with anyone else and you want to make sure she understands that. As for the current ex, definitely NC. Separate beds? She has no right to say that. She left your life. You can do whatever you want.
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