micahmo77 Posted February 3, 2008 Posted February 3, 2008 Until 4 days ago I was with her for four years and lived together for two. Shes cheated on me toward the end still forgave her and she continued to see the guy. However I busted them together and told him everything, he knew nothing about me and the extent of our relationship. Before this I begged, cried and pleaded for her to give us another try and start fresh. Looked weak and pathetic looking back but cant change that. Dont know if shes still seeing the guy, after I busted them I split and havent talked to her since. Its been 4 days and I feel I could still forgive her. She was my love and my heart, I miss her so much my heart is ready to explode. Could she know that she screwed up and that I loved her so much that I made myself look stupid trying to find out everything and showing her how much I cared. Do rebound guys last? If there is NC could that knaw at her emotions that she did someone that loved her so much so wrong?
JustinWolf Posted February 3, 2008 Posted February 3, 2008 Hey dude, i would say just completely go NC and forget about her. She cheated on you, she does not deserve one bit of you!!! She did you wrong, she hurt you, why hurt yourself waiting for her to come to you and all? Just move on, mate. Be strong.
Author micahmo77 Posted February 3, 2008 Author Posted February 3, 2008 thanks Justinwolf, I hear you and im trying to move on but for what if its not with my best friend. I could forgive her but ill let her be, maybe she will see sometime soon.
JustinWolf Posted February 3, 2008 Posted February 3, 2008 What you need to realise is, don't hope too much. Just be yourself, enjoy life, forget about her, go NC and things will get better because you will be opening the door to new people in your life. You could start dating and if you don't want right now, it's ok, just wait for the right time and you'll feel a lot better. I was in your situation, things do get better, because I've gotten myself back. I'm a lot more social to people, I'm having lots of fun and I think of my ex rarely but it does happen sometimes. Even then, it doesn't hurt as much as before. If she has to come back, she has to come back on your terms. Which means, you must not contact her at all, if she comes back.... maybe you won't even want her back. I suggest you give this a thought.
Blue Eyed Brain Posted February 3, 2008 Posted February 3, 2008 If she cheated on you than there was something that was lacking in the relationship, in her eyes. She was not "getting" what she wanted. The fact that you caught her and told the other guy everything about her was so wrong. You did that out of spite and hurt and she knows this. I don't think after doing that, you will have a chance with her. I also believe that the other guy will still be trying to court her. He knows what you did was out of immaturity and spite and not because you cared. He's willing to find it out himself. As for the rebound person becoming the "one." I don't know. I think it's 50/50 but more so that he will not last. Find another.
polly240483 Posted February 3, 2008 Posted February 3, 2008 well as a EX cheater myself i can say that in time she will realise what she did was wrong and want you back. i cheated on my ex for various reasons and i am not proud of it and do regret it, i also learnt a valuable lesson. i want my ex back but i need to show him that i have changed my ways and prove to him that i made a big mistake and will never do it again
oppath Posted February 3, 2008 Posted February 3, 2008 First of all, good for you for busting them. Yes, it is undignified and petty but you know what: good for you. She was manipulating you both because one definition of manipulation is deliberately withholding information from someone that could allow them to make a decision about their relationship, about their lives. So don't start thinking "I messed up and ruined it." You did not. Some might call that the low road but she is culpable, not you. She cheated while you two were together. As for wanting her back...get angry at her. Why would you want her back after this? She cheated on you. If there was something lacking in your relationship, if she really valued and cared for you, she would have addressed that issue with you before cheating. You don't want her back. You want her to alleviate the pain she has imbued because she is culpable for that pain. Well I have news for you...she is a lying two timing cheating whore. Get angry. You don't want her in your life. You want someone who treats you with the respect and care you deserve.
polly240483 Posted February 3, 2008 Posted February 3, 2008 People make mistakes, people have regrets, n people learn from them. Some people say ''well it should never of happened'' but sometimes people lose sight of what they want in life and where they are going, not intending to hurt the people they have in their life or around them. trust me i know. I HAVE MADE THE BIGGEST MISTAKE OF MY LIFE AND IT IS THE BIGGEST REGRET I HAVE.
vivrantflo Posted February 4, 2008 Posted February 4, 2008 Keep your head up Polly.. im in the same boat as you.
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