Valentines day soon! how awful, NC or give in?

[sandflea]

If you had a copy of my separation agreement in front of you, you'd note that the initial sep date was - drumroll please! - Feb 14th 2005. That's right boys and girls - my first wife left me on valentine's day!

 

So, while I think it can be a very wonderful day - I also have some memories of my own.

 

Stay strong on Feb 14th. That day means we're only 3 weeks from daylight savings!! Whoooo!

 

SF

[bigmanpayne]

everyone is saying ignore it, but what if that makes things worse? 2 weeks ago i was going to do something special for my W - i todl her this, she was excited. then she started acting different, i coudlnt get in touch with her, she didnt call me or the kids for 5-6 days, etc. so i said i will leave you alone and not get you anything - she said ok.

 

the other day we were in the car and i told my daughter that we couldn't do what we wanted to for her mom on valentines day - then my W flipped OUT! she got mad! she was like "youre not getting me anything? huh?" i mean what is that? she is practically living with someone else, swears she doesnt want me in her life and then gets mad if she isnt getting anything. it sucks. i am just not getting her anything at all, but it scares me what she will do next. that might backfire on my kids and i.

[norajane]

A new guy? Forget it! With the money you'll save on all the flower and candy BS, go out with some single buddies, have a few drinks and enjoy your freedom! Do things that make YOU happy. Don't waste any more of your time and energy on her. It does end, but you have to be proactive in ending it!

 

I agree!!

 

Go out with your friends on VDay and you'll likely meet a whole lot of other people who aren't dating anyone!

[dfreeman]

There are two things I am not doing on Valentine's Day...

 

1. Having ANY sort of contact/gift exchange with my ex

 

&

 

2. Staying at home waiting for said contact!

 

 

I will be out looking to cheer up some single women at our local hot spots and then I am going to a strip club. My ringer will be off and I am not checking e-mail until the next day.

[mistie03]

I will love myself on that day. Maybe I'll go buy myself something sexy. Since I'm unattached again, the day doesn't mean much.

[dfreeman]

I will love myself on that day.

 

I will probably do that too when I get home from the strip club!

[prisonbreak]

I bet your going to love yourself a whole bunch when you get home!

[dfreeman]

Yep...and I fake-gifted her a good box of MY favorite chocolates too, so I won't have any trouble getting myself in the mood!

[dfreeman]

Today is just Rubbi$h Day - DON'T write/call/gift your ex today!

[mistie03]

I made it through V-Day with no problem. I met a friend for dinner and drinks. It was actually quite enjoyable.

[dfreeman]

Barely even thought about her and never even considered calling/gifting her.

 

Thanks LS!

[Peter_pan]

i feel like crap now. i contacted my ex on V day just because i needed closure. it had been 3 weeks since i spoke to her and i felt so bad for having hate in me thinking she never cared and the past meant nothing. so now ive let it all out i can actually sleep again.... just happened to be valentines day i contacted her.

 

she has a new bf so i wished her good luck and said that contact would be to painful for me so goodluck and goodbye. now i aim never to contact her again to be honest and i have no desire to. only time to time do i think maybe if i said this or that she would come back. truth is she wont. why am i wasting my energy on her anymore?

 

good luck to her. in the future IF she did come crawling back then I would be the one to decide. after all this i dont think i would to be honest. I never did anything wrong. she just changed and turned 21 and felt grown up and wanted different things in life