mrgrey Posted February 2, 2008 Posted February 2, 2008 Read through some other posts on this but am curious what people think is the best way to go? Short story is I was married for almost 3 years, lived together for 6 years, had an affair for about 1 year of it, and am now ready for a divorce. I know there could be no "best" way for someone to approach this...but does anyone have any advice from either perspective. A better time of day, place, should I tell her mother first so she can be here to support her? I am going a bit crazy because I do deeply care for my wife but not in the marriage way anymore. Is it better to be packed and ready to go? Should I wait till a weekend? thank you
Mr. Lucky Posted February 2, 2008 Posted February 2, 2008 That's a little like saying "which limb of yours shall I chop off?" Which would you miss less, mrgrey? Right arm? Left leg? In what context does this bombshell get dropped onto your wife? Does she have any idea this is coming? What problems have you had and what (despite having an affair) have you done about it? Hard to say otherwise... Mr. Lucky
FlippinConfused Posted February 4, 2008 Posted February 4, 2008 I think if you know it's better to just do it sooner than later. maybe not in the middle of the night, and I wouldn't tell her mother first. That's just awful. I would be even more hurt if I knew my mom knew before me.
Enema Posted February 4, 2008 Posted February 4, 2008 During sex while she's high on endorphines. It's logical man!
Micke81 Posted February 4, 2008 Posted February 4, 2008 There is no good way to do this. Before you tell her, I'd write a letter explaining all the things you want to get an opportunity to say. Take it with you when you tell her, because it is likely you won't get to say 1/2 of them. Give her the letter AFTER you've already done your best to talk to her about it...that way she will be able to read it. (Don't put anything that could damage you in court in the letter though.)
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