Balthazar Posted February 2, 2008 Posted February 2, 2008 Having been out of the whole dating scene for about 8 years or so, I am finding myself very rusty in my skills at approaching women and interpreting their intents. Usually, I like to express an interest in a woman by asking her out to dinner. I try to be friendly yet I still want to make my romantic intents known. My question is the following: What advice would you offer on asking women out and making it clear you are interested in them romantically? And one question especially for female members. Would you categorize being asked to dinner(let's say on a charged day like Saturday night) as friendly or romantic? Does your judgment depend on whether you are attracted to the guy or not? Thanks for reading
oppath Posted February 2, 2008 Posted February 2, 2008 Sounds like you ask women out but they say yes because they feel trapped into saying yes, so they go out with you as a friend, and you are then disappointed that they mistook your intention. It depends on context, but I try to tell a woman "that's really attractive that you ____________" where the blank can be anything from volunteering as a Big Sister to being adventurous, backpacking and rockclimbing or what not. I basically try to let them know, before I ask them out, that I find something about them attractive. In a bar or a party, I'll actually use the word "sexy." Maybe I'll be talking about them indirectly, like "I think women who know how to surf are sexy." It gets them thinking in a romantic/sexual tone. And there is always the more direct approach. "I really enjoyed talking with you. How can we enjoy each other some more?" or the uber direct "To be honest, I enjoy talking to you and want to take you out and get to know you better." It's hard to miscontrue those overtures as anything other than a date. If you are asking out women you have known for a while, you might be in an ambiguous zone. Try to be less ambiguous. It's better to be told "no" than to waste your time. Many women will say yes when they have no interest because they don't know how to say no. The more clear you are, the more likely they are to say no.
Florida Posted February 2, 2008 Posted February 2, 2008 Having been out of the whole dating scene for about 8 years or so, I am finding myself very rusty in my skills at approaching women and interpreting their intents. Usually, I like to express an interest in a woman by asking her out to dinner. I try to be friendly yet I still want to make my romantic intents known. My question is the following: What advice would you offer on asking women out and making it clear you are interested in them romantically? "When can I see you again?" or "Would you care to join me Saturday night for dinner?"
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