Va3H Posted February 2, 2008 Posted February 2, 2008 Sorry, for the long post. Please Read. Ok, before I start, I think it’s helpful to understand the situation. I met this girl—Alisa—about a month an half ago, right before the end of finals. I noticed her in one of my classes and made a remark to one of my friends how I though she was attractive, then one day, I saw her in the weight room and decided to ask her out on a date. Since, the University I go to is conservative, I was a little apprehensive if the date would go well. Well, for the first date we went to go see I Am Legend at the IMAX and got something to eat. During the whole date, I was rather forthright, telling her what I disliked about the University, asked her if she drinks? And somewhat showed her my character, for the most part not much small talk. And on a personal side-note— we got lost since the theater was far away. So the date ended, and everything seemed to go well. She texted me next morning and said “I had a good time hanging out with you.” I asked her, when can we do something again. Since, we had two finals left, we decided to do something on Tuesday, since we both had the same final. So we hung out, I decided to go bowling—change things up. She seemed to genuinely enjoy bowling; afterwards, I asked her up to my place. And we talked for awhile, and then watched Frasier for an hour. I made some moves, and she responded nicely. After that, we both said goodbye and I told her when will I see you again, because she lives in Duluth. She said when I get back. So, after one week of Christmas vacation, she texted me at night, and said she was coming down to Minneapolis to drop of her older sister and her fiancé, and she wondered if I would like to hang around with her that day. The funny thing is, one of my good friends also meet a girl and was in a similar predicament. One thing, I remember saying to my friend is: since she was a senior (nursing major) and I (Biology) and a junior that she would not want to get into a relationship due to her graduating and maybe possibly going to Colorado to be a nurse. Though, has yet to be accepted into the program. So, she called me and I meet her at Chill’s with her sister and fiancé. Afterwards, since the Twin Cities was 2.5 hours form Duluth, and the plane left at 5 am. She stayed at a friends house, we hung out till about 4am, and everything went well. Some side stories, but will not bore you with that. The next day, we meet up around 2, because I forgot something (credit card) and picked it up, we said goodbye and said: I will see you in a week. So, I texted her on Friday, and asked her when will see come up, see responded and said Monday, since she stated J-term Tuesday. Then the next day, she called me, and said she was coming up on Sunday instead. We hung out at her place with her roommates and had a good time. Then we hung out on Monday, and talked about some deep issues like: politics, religion, what it means to be in a relation, and important things. We both had a good time, and were surprised that we had talked for so long. Then that Friday, we went out to eat, and talked about whatever… laughed and had good time. The following week on Tuesday, we went to eat at Chipotle and went back to her place. She was tired, and since I don’t always have a car at the University, she drove me around sometimes. She let me drive the car back to campus; she picked it up the next day. After that, we didn’t hang out for 5 days or so because we where busy with class work. On Saturday, we went to see Atonement and same old same old stuff—everything went well. She asked me, if I wanted to go to Chicago with her, during J-term break, and I said yes. So, I was going to ask her out, everything seemed good- I though she genuinely liked me and felt that there was something there. Well, I didn’t ask her out and decided to do it next time. The following week was really busy, so I didn’t hang out with her, and told her that. She likewise was busy too. So, I texted her on Friday to see if she wanted to hang out, but couldn’t. So, we decided to hang out on Saturday, after she skied. We however, never hung out because she went up to Duluth for some reason, and told me she would tell me later. I thought everything was ok, but I was getting the distinct feeling some was going astray. Nevertheless, I keep my cool and didn’t fret much. The j-term break came and we hadn’t hung out for almost a week and a half, so we decided to do something Friday, we both agreed upon that Thursday night. However, this is when things got sour, it seemed as though she was avoiding me. So I called her and said we need to talk, I meet her at her place, and told her (might have been a bad idea) that I wanted to get into a relationship with her, and among several other things… and for the most part she said that: “she would like to get into a relationship with me… but didn’t want to because she was leaving.” Well, I told her, what will happen to us if you don’t want to enter into a relationship. She didn’t respond. After the conversation, I felt relived and thought she would say—yes. We both agreed that she should think about it and would get back to me later. So, four hours later, she said no. I was floored. I respected her decision. But I was positive that she said no and that we should see each other. So I called her and talked to her for a minute and said that this goes against better judgment: but why did say no and don’t judge the situation by past experiences. In the end, I signed up to be in a class with her because she wanted me too join it with her. I just am wondering what I should do. Do you think she cares for me?
TigerCub Posted February 2, 2008 Posted February 2, 2008 To be honest, I got a little confused at the end of your post. Did she say no to wanting to get into a relationship with you? and if so, why did you sign up to be in a class with her because she asked you to? Also why are you wondering if she cares for you? Sorry I'm not trying to sound mean, but if she doesn't want to get involved in a relationship because she might move for work and stuff, yeah she could care for you (as a friend) or someone cool to hang out with, but obviously not in a relationship bf kinda way. Cuz lets face it, if she really wanted a relationship she'd at least discuss a long distance possibility, yeah that's not for everyone, but she'd probably at least discuss it as an option if she wanted the relationship so bad.
Author Va3H Posted February 2, 2008 Author Posted February 2, 2008 Sorry for the confusion. Actually, I signed up for the class before she said no. Oh well. Maybe she'll change her mind. Who knows?
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