Really good friends with a girl, but it's all weird now

[OK1988]

So, I'm really good friends with a girl. She came back from working at Disney recently. We were spending a lot of time together, like every other day, and then I told her I liked her. She tells me that she likes me a lot too. So eventually I ask her out and she seems fine with it. It was only until the night before the date that we talked and she told me that she needed time. Two weeks later she says that she was scared by the whole thing but she still likes me. We aren't hanging out or speaking over the phone at this point. She recently said that she is confused and doesn't know if she still likes me.

 

I've been sort of assuming maybe she's just trying to let me down easy because we're friends, but when I tell her I'm fine with just being friends it's like she doesn't accept it or something. For example, I sent her a message saying that I'd like to just hang out and forget about the dating stuff because I really miss goofing off together and everything. She replies with a bunch of stuff about how she is afraid of commitment ,and one minute she wants to hang out but the next minute she doesn't.

 

I don't really understand what's going on with her, and I've asked her a few times about it. She doesn't seem to want to really talk to me, but then she still acts like we're really good friends sometimes. It's been almost 3 months since we've hung out or talked on the phone. It all happened really suddenly from the time I asked her out. What can I do to get my friend back?

[Bogun]

Give her some time to herself. Dont call or see or for a week or a few weeks depending on how often you've been seeing her, and you'll soon find out how keen she is on you.

[OK1988]

I actually haven't hung out with her for over 2 months now, but I think you're right Bogun. We've been communicating through messages on myspace, but I should just wait for her until she's ready to really have a good talk about this stuff. Thanks for the advice!