guessjeans Posted February 11, 2008 Posted February 11, 2008 Are you kidding me?? DONT DO A THING! I wrote in another post not long ago about a simular question and i will tell you the same thing! NO! Dont do a thing! Dont call! Dont do a card! DONT call! Dont even acknowledge him that day. What ppl who are heartbroken dont understand is that he knows you want him back, and he is taking your love and your desire to let him back, for granted. Think about it..if you knew someone wanted you back, was perusing you, and for now, you just want some space, how would you feel towards that person pursuing you and continuely sending you things, calling them, crying that you want them back...think about it! You would find it a huge turn off, you would soon lose all respect for that person, and you would feel more sorry for them, than anything else. And all that does is push them further away. He has made his choice. Oh, he thinks he has it made. He has the best of both worlds. He has a woman at work that he has been dating during working hours, (thats how office romance start, the co workers become emotionally close during working hours, usually one is still involved with a spouse, and once one is free, the relationship starts off like a serious relationship...their feet dont hit the ground.) They have built up such a desire for each other through their "dating" at work, and now he is free, I wouldnt think that him not wanting to be home is because it is just too late! Oh Please! He has made his choice, so now you are going to stick your chest out, keep your chin up, dust yourself off, and say to yourself..YOU CAN HAVE HER...I DESERVE BETTER THAN THAT! And you do. Remember self respect, keep saying that to yourself. He has given up his family as he knows it for this woman..and it wont last! Most office romances dont. Too serious too fast, and working all day, plus spending your off hours with them too..its just too much! Keep your conversations with him strictly to do about your daughter. You have told him how you feel, now dont say another word about it. SELF RESPECT! Be Strong! Let him get a taste of reality of being a part time dad. What has his choices cost him?? He still has two woman that want him! You will always be that back up in case this one doesnt work out! Forget that! Let him believe you are moving on with your life with your acts of coldness, business like if want, type of behaviour with him. Strictly about your daughter, other household discussions, but no more about how you feel! He has to get a taste of what his actions have cost him, and right now, there has been no consquences to his actions. Let him believe that you wont always be there for him.
Author lovingyou2 Posted February 12, 2008 Author Posted February 12, 2008 guess.... you are absolutely right. Thank you. It is easier said than done, but i know it is for the best. I am trying to be strong. Didn't email or text all day today which is a small step for me, but still an accomplishment.
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