reliance Posted February 2, 2008 Posted February 2, 2008 I look back on all the relationships I have had and realize i feel absolutely nothing at all for the people i once cared and loved. Especially my ex who was my longest relationship. 4.5 years. I found out he had a kid with someone else and i was so happy, all i could think of was "oh my god had i stayed with him that could've been me" (i dont want kids) Is it normal to look back on your past and feel absolutely nothing for the people you once loved so dearly or is there something wrong with me?
KenzieAbsolutely Posted February 2, 2008 Posted February 2, 2008 Is it normal to look back on your past and feel absolutely nothing for the people you once loved so dearly or is there something wrong with me? i think it's normal. i don't feel anything for people i was in relationships for. they served their purpose while they were around, the purpose is over. i don't need them or want them in my life for any reason. when i found out my ex (who i was with for over 7 years) got engaged and then married, all i thought was 'better her than me'. i don't hate them. i just don't miss them or want them for anything. i feel nothing. i think you're okay.
blackbird Posted February 2, 2008 Posted February 2, 2008 Out of four previous LTRs, I feel absolutely nothing for one, either positive or negative, two others for whom I feel a distant fondness ("nice knowing you, hope things work out for you"), and a fourth for whom I simply feel fond, at a distance (haven't seen him in 3 years or so, and he prefers NC with me and I respect that). The last one that I broke up with is the one I feel absolutely nothing for now, and the one that made me realize how easy it is to fool oneself into thinking the excitement of a new relationship is meaningful. It's no surprise I feel nothing for him now -- we never had a genuine connection at all, I just fooled myself into thinking we did at the time. He still tries to contact me every once in a while, and I have zero desire to return contact. I'm not repulsed or suppressing anything, I just feel nothing at all there in relation to that person. Weird how that is.
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