THE THRONE Posted February 2, 2008 Posted February 2, 2008 OP, THE THRONE says you're practing a form of ageism. If you don't know what that is google it.
Author maynicholas Posted February 3, 2008 Author Posted February 3, 2008 Sounds like it's more an issue of how old the guys look rather than how old they are. I bet that if you met a guy your age who looked as youthful as you do, you'd be singing a different tune. I think you've hit it dead on. throne- I know what ageism is, but thank you. But hey- no law that says I can't be discriminating in my dating life.
THE THRONE Posted February 3, 2008 Posted February 3, 2008 No law at all, friend. THE THRONE is entitled to date 18 year olds, but he doesn't. We all discriminate, and THE THRONE see's what you're doing as sort of a filtering process. However, just don't let it prohibit you to the point where you can't bend a little.
crosswordfiend Posted February 3, 2008 Posted February 3, 2008 no law that says I can't be discriminating in my dating life. None at all. I'm the same way.
D-Lish Posted February 3, 2008 Posted February 3, 2008 Nah, you just want to be a cougar. Most of the 32-35 are working on their careers and not as fun as the younger ones who right now don't know better PLUS they can keep up. LOL!!!! I love you JerBear. I am a COUGAR. you heard it here first. I am over 35..... and being over 35 it doesn't come down to passing for 18- because you don't. It just comes down to whether or not you are still hot or not. You can be hot over 30..... geez. I got asked for ID at the liquor store last week and I almost s**t my pants. And Canada is 19!! lol. Younger men? go for it. I have one in my bed right now while I am posting here. He is 22- I am over 35. I outdrank him and he is sleeping. Not my soulmate..... but fun to hang with. you go girl.
CD111 Posted February 3, 2008 Posted February 3, 2008 OP, I have also recently realized that I am not that attracted to a good portion of men that are a few years older then me. I am almost 28 and more and more men in their 30's just look and act like they are too old for me. I definitely think it has to do something with being in school. I definitely don't look like I am 18 or even 20. I haven't exactly figured out why, but many just don't seem as free spirited, they are committed to their careers, they seem less likely to take risks and also not as adventurous. By, the way these are just general statements, by no means do I think this of every guy that is over 30. I think everyone ages differently. So I don't think that dating younger guys is detrimental to you. Have fun.
dreamergrl Posted February 3, 2008 Posted February 3, 2008 I don't think its self sabotage - I think it's just a matter of who you are attracted too. I look young for my age as well. When I hit 18, I stopped aging much. I'm 26 now, and only up till a year ago did I find myself seeing men over 27 attractive, HOWEVER, I don't find many men under 24 attractive either - and I have yet to find someone over 30 attractive. I don't know why, just how I am. Now when I was 18 - I dated a 26 year old... and I found him extremely attractive. I couldn't see myself going for someone who is 34 now.
latefragment Posted February 3, 2008 Posted February 3, 2008 Is this the "hat" guy that you have in your bed, or someone else (I can't keep track of all of them! LOL)
Author maynicholas Posted February 3, 2008 Author Posted February 3, 2008 Now when I was 18 - I dated a 26 year old... and I found him extremely attractive. I couldn't see myself going for someone who is 34 now. When I was 19 I briefly dated a 25 year old and thought it was awsome that I was dating an older man. Now at 30, 36 seems too old for me! Maybe it has to do with the fact that I see them as 'grown up', and when I look in the mirror, I don't see a grown up. I still see the girl I saw in college (the 1st time around)- only better looking.
Florida Posted February 3, 2008 Posted February 3, 2008 (edited) I'm 30. I look to be in my early 20's (on a good day I get 18). I don't feel 30- although I don't know what '30' should feel like- I feel like I'm the age I look. It doesn't help that I'm back in college. Well it seems that I am not attracted to the guys I meet who are slightly older than me. I feel like they are too old (I'm talking 32-35)- or that they look too old. I seem to be attracted to guys that are too young for me (early 20's). Why? Am I subconciously sabotaging myself? I wish I had the link for this article that's relevant. It reminded me of this, it said generation x is rebelling against all other generations in staying younger longer by putting off anything that smacks of grown-upness. Basically, avoiding anything close to their parents life of getting a job they don't want, in a house, with a picket fence and children all by age 25. Back in the 1950's once out of the teens, it was time to get married and act like a grown up. Today, go to a concert and you will see 2 types of people. The ones in their 20's, and the ones in their 30's. The 20's are dreadfully frightened of aging, as are the 30's. Fashion is now catered to give the 30's a youthful grown up look. It is fashionable to look like one does not have a 9-5 job like their parents, many start their own businesses and put off marriage. Many women date younger, and the men their age also do to stay in the youthful sector as long as physical appearance will allow. As opposed to the 1950's, when people aspired to act mature beyod their years and take on the burdens of adulthood by age 21, many in their late 30's aspire to immaturity, the college lifestyle and usage of young slang, pop references group them in to this new social category. It's not just about looking young, but *acting* young to feel young. Dating younger also accomplishes this. It was a really good article. But that was it in a nutshell. By the way, I am NOT being at all critical MayN, but I think it answers "I seem to be attracted to guys that are too young for me (early 20's). Why?" or attempts to. Edited February 3, 2008 by Florida
sam light Posted February 6, 2008 Posted February 6, 2008 I am a COUGAR. you heard it here first. I am over 35..... and being over 35 it doesn't come down to passing for 18- because you don't. It just comes down to whether or not you are still hot or not. You can be hot over 30..... Indeed, I've seen loads of hot women in their 40's and even 2 in their 50's.
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