Serph Posted February 2, 2008 Posted February 2, 2008 Earlier this week I gathered my courage and asked out a girl I fancied at college. Even if I was a bit awkward in my delivery of "i think you're a nice girl, and thought that it could be great if we went out to grab a bite to eat some time", much to my surprise, she smiled and immediately agreed. I asked for her MSN so that I could contact her again, and added her to my friends list later in the day. Now it's been two days and a half and I've discovered that she isn't online often at all, I keep missing her, I only saw her on idle once or twice and two times her message has changed while I was gone away. If I keep missing her like that, I wonder if I should send a formal offline message to set the specifics of the place and time for the date, or just leave her craving for more and talk to her again on the next course I have with her early next week. I also wonder if I should propose a fixed day of the week and hour and risk for it to enter in conflict with her schedule, or if I should allow her a bit more freedom and ask for a day when she'd be available. Hehe dating can be pretty stressful, it all seems so close... sorry for some strange reason I can't post paragraphs, I wrote a few ones but they all combined into one with the forum software
SeraBella Posted February 2, 2008 Posted February 2, 2008 You should send a message and ask for her phone number. Then make plans over the phone. Or, if you'll see her in the next couple of days say "Hey, I guess we haven't been able to hook up on MSN. Maybe the phone would be better. Can I have your number?" You took the courage to ask her out, now find the courage to call her. Definitely get her number and call her. I would feel like a guy wasn't truly interested in me if he only wanted to talk on MSN, even if that's not the case, it is how it would make me feel.
EYECANDY000 Posted February 2, 2008 Posted February 2, 2008 If you see her first then you should ask for her phone number first. If you know that you dont see her often then you should message her and ask for her phone number. Im not sure how you cant keep her craving , if she isnt making an attempt to contact you
Author Serph Posted February 2, 2008 Author Posted February 2, 2008 (edited) Had I known she's be so enthusiastic I'd have definitely requested her phone number from the get-go, but this is a course where people absolutely don't talk to each other, it's tennis and we just obey the coach's instructions without talking. Before the proposal I spoke to her like two-three times in the previous weeks and it was just meaningless, split-seconds small talk. As I was a complete stranger in her eyes, I reckoned that an IM handle sounded less intimidating to give away than a phone number. And I hesitate about sending that kind of offline message, because if she doesn't reply back, it would make next week's course more awkward. Doing this also gives her control that's currently in my hands, and could perhaps be interpretated as a telltale sign of neediness... or perhaps I just worry too much about these kinds of things? Edited February 2, 2008 by Serph
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