kdiep04 Posted February 1, 2008 Posted February 1, 2008 me and my girlfriend went out for 4 years. About 3 months ago she went to the bar with her friends. we've been broken up around that time. she got really drunk and her guy friend took advantage of her and had sex with her and got her pregnant. she woke up the next morning and had no idea they had any type of sex. then about a month later she got very sick and went to the doctor and they checked if she pregnant and she was. then she asked that guy if anything happened, then he finally admitted he got her pregnant said he did it because he wanted to be with her. she came to me and cried and said she didn't want this to happen. she told me she loves me so much and she wants to be with me but she can't now because of what happened. she is carrying someone else baby and she feels like she has to be with that guy now. they have been together for a few weeks, but there is no kissing, hugging, or any type of sexual contact. i've came over to see how shes doing and she holds me and kissing me and tell me she loves me. she breaks into tears sometime because she doesnt know what to do. she about a 1 1/2 pregnant. i told her if she wanted to be with me, abortion is the only way, but i know that is wrong. she calls me everyday and text me a lot and i don't know what to do. i really want to be with her so bad, but the right thing i know to do is to move on. if i continue talking to her, i feel like i'm setting myself up to get hurt even more. my mind won't agree what my heart says... so please give me your thoughts?
Trecherized Posted February 1, 2008 Posted February 1, 2008 i would say move on. even if she was to get an abortion. do you think you'd be able to carry on knowing all of that happened? good luck and i hope you make the right decision.
amaysngrace Posted February 1, 2008 Posted February 1, 2008 How can you get so drunk that you don't know you're having sex with someone? This one gets me every time. I have been slipped crap in my drinks and been date raped and still had glimpses of the act. FWIW I think your GF is a liar.
Blue Eyed Brain Posted February 1, 2008 Posted February 1, 2008 How old are you both? If I was her, I would consider an abortion. If I were you, I would go with my heart and filter it through my head before making any decisions on what to do next.
jmargel Posted February 1, 2008 Posted February 1, 2008 Why doesn't she press charges against this guy? And why don't you want to be with her? Because she is pregnant by some other guy? For you to ask for an abortion is very, very selfish. Don't stoop that low to give that type of ultamatium. This is an innocent baby. How old are the both of you? You two try counseling together? That might be a start.
Author kdiep04 Posted February 1, 2008 Author Posted February 1, 2008 well she wasn't lying she we didn't remember. when we were together, they were plenty of times where we would have sex very drunk and she didn't remember. shes always have been completely honest with me. I'm currently 22, she currently has two children of her own and i love them as if they were my own. i come to see them often, they are both 4 and 5. their biological father is no where in their lives and probably never will be.
Author kdiep04 Posted February 1, 2008 Author Posted February 1, 2008 jamargel, i know abortion is very selfish of me. i never will deny that, but that fact is that i can't walk back into this relationship with her having another child when it could have been mines.
Author kdiep04 Posted February 1, 2008 Author Posted February 1, 2008 i also need an opinion on what to do when she calls me and text me.... should i ignore it all until whenever i'm ready to speak to her again?
BrianG Posted February 2, 2008 Posted February 2, 2008 Sorry, I know you love the girl, hence the "love is blind" cliche. She has some problems. I have been pretty drunk and had sex and I still know whether or not i had sex the next morning. She is feeding you a bunch of bs in my opinion. Hate to be harsh, but that is a lie in my opinion. Think about it, seriously, do you think that she met up with this guy, had her clothers taken off or took them off herself, had sex and she remembers nothing. She was either slipped a mickey, which is wrong, but she is still talking to the guy, what does that say?
dropdeadlegs Posted February 2, 2008 Posted February 2, 2008 I question the getting so drunk she didn't remember having sex, too. I have been VERY drunk many, many times. I had sex during those drunken instances and I never, ever, had no recollection whatsoever. The fact that she is now with the guy is pretty suspicious, too. I guess your choices are to move on or accept a third child that isn't yours and try to get her back. I will guess that moving on is the best choice. If you get her back, I wouldn't ever trust her while drinking.
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