carolinaboy Posted February 1, 2008 Posted February 1, 2008 I havent posted in a while cos things have been decent. i don't think of my ex much and I've started dating again successfully. The other night I had a dream with my ex in it and woke up and was weirded out. Sure enough, I realized her bday was today. My friends say I should call. I am trying to be an adult, I feel if I was to say Happy Bday, an email or myspace message would be lame. We ended on bad terms, with her cheating on me and all. We met up a couple of months ago,talked about all the stuff, made out and then I went and drove to her house that night like a dumbass trying to tell her I miss her and wanted sleepover. I got shutdown and she didnt respond to my emails or calls since. She did call on New Years, but I didnt answer. Anyways, any opinions??? I'm not so much worried about her telling me she's got some new great guy or anything like that as opposed to this reopening a friendship with someone that is a total flake, esp. with my heart.
ps123 Posted February 1, 2008 Posted February 1, 2008 I guess I'd ask, why would you want to call? Is it really to wish her a happy birthday, or is it just an excuse to call? It sounds like she kind of let you know where things were at by not returning your messages or calls. IMO, she doesn't deserve a happy b-day message from you. She cheated on you, strung you along and then didn't even have the courtesy or decency to return your calls or messages. Even a simple message telling you to move on would be better than nothing at all. Again, she doesn't even deserve the call from you, or your friendship. Move on. Like I said, it sounds to me like you just want an excuse to call.
blind_otter Posted February 1, 2008 Posted February 1, 2008 People ALWAYS ask this question and the answer is always the same. NO do not call. Especially if you aren't on good terms. It just makes you look like a tool.
amaysngrace Posted February 1, 2008 Posted February 1, 2008 Again, she doesn't even deserve the call from you, or your friendship. Yeah why boost her ego? All she'll use it for is to tell her new BF how hung up you are on her still.
Author carolinaboy Posted February 1, 2008 Author Posted February 1, 2008 no i dont want an excuse, it's just the first time it's come up since the breakup you know?? i think people always panic on the first bday, x mas, new years that they're not w/ their ex and they're used to that routine. i think the past actions indicate i shouldnt call. thanks for stating what should be seen as the obvious, gang!
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