megancita Posted February 1, 2008 Posted February 1, 2008 I was married for 3 years, then my husband decided he needed to be single to "mingle"... anyway, he left, our marriage was over, we have one child. Later I found out that he left to be with another woman. We separated in 2003 and we have not divorced. after our separation, I fell ill.. needed a kidney transplant and I put all my energey and concentration in getting better for me and mi child. In 2004 i had a kidney transplant and I'm doing great. Meanwhile, my ex had started a new life with this girl. From what I know they have never been able to be happy. They have been on and off since 03. They had a child in 06 and now they broke up last October, because she cheated on him ( three times). Now that he is not with her, he has more time for our little girl, he always spend time with her, but now is more frequent. Well, for Thanksgiving we invited him over for dinner. He stayed over and one thing led to another and we ended up together in bed. We've been together for a few more times. At the beginning I was fine... just s e x... that was it.... but now he is treating me like his confidant! telling all the things they went through and how much he hates her...how angry he is at her... because she did not appreciate that he gave up his family for her. He tells me know, that he never stopped loving me and that hi missed his family all these years. He says he stayed with her because he new things were over between us and all he wanted with her was what he had with us. Honestly, he was and still is the love of my life, he still is my husband and although he put me through hell I would give our family a second chance in a minute. But I AM AFRAID. He did tell me that he wants time to get himself together because he does not want to screw things up again... I said we should be friends get to know eachother again.. and see where this gets us..... I want us to work...i want this ... any comments will help!
jmargel Posted February 1, 2008 Posted February 1, 2008 I would highly suggest cousenling. Thing is, if she never cheated on him or ditched him, would he still want to be with you? Sounds like you were his safety net. I would make it very hard for him to come back, the trust he needs to earn. What is really sad is that he wasn't even there when you had your surgery. He sounds very, very immature.
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