Maxi Posted February 1, 2008 Posted February 1, 2008 G'day all.... I was wondering if anyone could offer their thoughts on this situation I am currently experiencing. My gf's best friend moved to our city a few weeks ago for work and will be staying in the city for a long time. We seem to get on really well and she has told my gf that she really likes me and is happy that my gf finally has the guy that she deserves.. This is all really good, however, I find that she is constantly around! I have made a really big effort to include her in stuff we are doing (like partying, going out to dinner, introducing her to my friends ect).. but she is even there when its our "alone" time. Its not really her fault... shes really needy and a long way away fromher family.. so my gf feels like she needs to be there to support her... ALL the time! I understand this but also dont want it to go on forever! My prediciment is that last night my gf asks me if her friend can rent the spare room in our place (as she is currently staying at a place her work organised for the 1st month she is here).. Whilst It would be good for someone else to help pay the rent.. my issue is that she will always be around and I need time alone with my gf! I told my gf that I would like to get to know her a bit more, before I know if I am comfortable to live with her.. and she is ok with that.. but eventually she will want an answer. I really dont know what to say... I want my gf to be happy... but I also want to be happy and unless we have space I dont think I will be. Can anyone offer some advise on what I sould do? Should I be more considerate of her friends needs? Is it ok for me to tell her that we need time alone now (Im sure she really wants it too!)?
Kamille Posted February 1, 2008 Posted February 1, 2008 Does your girlfriend know you feel the two of you are lacking in couple time? I think this is your first issue and the one you should focus on. Whether or not the friend moves in, you two need to find a balance now that she is in town.
EYECANDY000 Posted February 1, 2008 Posted February 1, 2008 I would tell your g/f that it bothers you that she is always around! tell her it is ok when you two are just doing things like partying, bowling etc.. but when it comes to going out to a restaurant and going to the movies then she is intruding on your alone time. Also, I wouldnt suggest having the best friend move in with you . And I say that because suppose you and your g/f get into an argument who is the first person your gf is going to look to console her? HER BEST FRIEND!!! And the g/f will have tention with you because she feels like you are not treating her best friend up to par..... Explain to your g/f that it wouldnt be a good idea! She never wants to be in the situation where she has to choose sides between her b/f and her best friend
hesmyworld44 Posted February 1, 2008 Posted February 1, 2008 Im the SAME exact way. I need my couple time, and that is perfectly normal. Like you say, you would want her to be happy and help her friend out, but i think you doing something that will make you uncomfortable will just build tension for both of you, probably even her friend. I say speak up NOW, and talk with your gf about what you mentioned, before you get yourself in something even harder to escape later. Save yourself the stress.
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