M2ZND Posted January 31, 2008 Posted January 31, 2008 (edited) I hear he is seeing someone already. How can someone who says that you were the love of their life and that they wanted to marry you...replace you in less than a week? We broke up with the hope that one day we can let go of the past and come together once again and be the dynamic couple that we both believed we could be. What kind of cruel world do we live in? How can HE be so cruel? Edited February 1, 2008 by M2ZND
Belkin Posted February 1, 2008 Posted February 1, 2008 Ummmm.... Are you so sure he wasn't seeing her before you broke up? Or at least had views on her? That would explain the quick replacement, now wouldn't it...
Ocean-Blue Posted February 1, 2008 Posted February 1, 2008 I hear he is seeing someone already. How can someone who says that you were the love of their life and that they wanted to marry you...replace you in less than a week? We broke up with the hope that one day we can let go of the past and come together once again and be the dynamic couple that we both believed we could be. What kind of cruel world do we live in? How can HE be so cruel? People say things when they are breaking up to ease the others pain. But really, at the end of the day, most people are selfish and go after what they want. Your ex obviously values being with this new person than allowing you time to heal. He has moved on. And yes, maybe that is cruel...but remember, you guys ended the relationship for a reason. And perhaps it's for the best (for now). I mean...if he were single and just there, it may have kept you from moving on (by focusing on how to get him back or how to fix things). See his moving on as a blessing and start focusing on what's important to you. His actions show that you are not a priority for him anymore. As painful as that is, use that negative feedback to move on strong and don't look back.
dynababy1 Posted February 1, 2008 Posted February 1, 2008 I know it is hard to understand that a man is a man is a man...whoever he gets it from is who is the woman of the world for him at the time..you need to understand life happens people move on and they dont give a sh**. I know it may sound hard but it is a fact of life shi* happens.
topend22 Posted February 1, 2008 Posted February 1, 2008 Hey, come on now, All men are not the same, i am on this site becaue my wife cheated on me, i divorced her, got a girlfriend and my girlfriend broke up with me. My theripiest says im to nice of a guy, i give a woman whatever she wants and i am no challange to them. so easy on the Men are men comment, in fact, i heard that a woman thinks about sex 3 times more then a man every day
1bee Posted February 1, 2008 Posted February 1, 2008 M2ZND Hon, I can completely relate to you because I'm going through the exact same thing right now! Even though it completely blows your mind right now, and believe me it blows mine too, the explanations provided to you are TRUE. My boyfriend of three years told me he loved me up until he decided to leave two months ago and replace me with a happy, hyper blonde chick. I FEEL YOUR PAIN. It is completely and utterly ****ty. Words can't describe it. Just remember that you're the better person and that not all men are like that. There is happiness out there for you as long as you stay true to yourself and keep your head up. If you need to vent just send me an email because i know what you're going through
9Lives Posted February 10, 2008 Posted February 10, 2008 M2ZND Hon, I can completely relate to you because I'm going through the exact same thing right now! Even though it completely blows your mind right now, and believe me it blows mine too, the explanations provided to you are TRUE. My boyfriend of three years told me he loved me up until he decided to leave two months ago and replace me with a happy, hyper blonde chick. I FEEL YOUR PAIN. It is completely and utterly ****ty. Words can't describe it. Just remember that you're the better person and that not all men are like that. There is happiness out there for you as long as you stay true to yourself and keep your head up. If you need to vent just send me an email because i know what you're going through if your bf could move on that easily, then he really did not love you or he is just doing the rebound thing.....when you love someone, you cant just throw someone under the bus like you never existed. It a lie and a trick
jlynn_21 Posted February 10, 2008 Posted February 10, 2008 I hear he is seeing someone already. How can someone who says that you were the love of their life and that they wanted to marry you...replace you in less than a week? We broke up with the hope that one day we can let go of the past and come together once again and be the dynamic couple that we both believed we could be. What kind of cruel world do we live in? How can HE be so cruel? yea i think that is messed up mabey he's tryin to make you jelous or something.my girl friend broke up with me bout a week ago cause i lied to her now she dosent trust me but we are still friends and we hang out , its killing me i want her back i said i was sorry she said i have to prove to her my love and that i would never lie agian what should i do?
9Lives Posted February 10, 2008 Posted February 10, 2008 yea i think that is messed up mabey he's tryin to make you jelous or something.my girl friend broke up with me bout a week ago cause i lied to her now she dosent trust me but we are still friends and we hang out , its killing me i want her back i said i was sorry she said i have to prove to her my love and that i would never lie agian what should i do? I would stop hanging with her. Your going to get hurt. Tell her you are sorry and you want her back and that you are not going to bug her about it. tell her to call you if she would like to try again and move on. all this hanging out is not going to work on your behalf.
Roller EastCoaster Posted February 10, 2008 Posted February 10, 2008 Yeah, that is a bunch of garbage. I was in a similar situation where she basically started it up with some guy right after the breakup. And this was despite saying all the "I want to marry you" and "I love you so much I dont even know what to do with myself" blah blah blah. Its actually very scary and borderline psychotic that someone can turn so fast on you emotionally/mentally. I guess we have to think about that and wonder what they would do if we were married to them... Do we really want to be with someone like that? Someone who apparently lacks extremely important values-do unto others what they have done to you. Translation- treat the person who loved you with nothing but respect, kindness, and reciprocity. If they want to break up thats fine and understandable, but there should be a period of time in which they should be alone as in not seeing someone out of respect for the mutual love there once was (maybe them getting physical or hanging out with others on a superficial level is ok at best). I mean to me this is basic in the game of love, and people who cannot respect this are desperate, sheisty, deceitful, immature, foolhardy, troubled, super attention-seeking, very insecure, not sure of what they want, extremely selfish, disrespectful, and lacking of self-control. So if a person is a one or a combination of one of the traits which I described... why the hell do we and did we want to be with them?????????? Go figure.
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