tinker Posted January 31, 2008 Posted January 31, 2008 Ok so I told my ex a few weeks ago that I just couldnt deal with talking to her right now. She would call me once a week, and it started to affect me alot so I told her that I would talk to her when I was ready to. Anyways recently I deleted my myspace account because I also have facebook, and I seem to get alot more messages, comments, and such on that, and my ex was also on my top friends so it hurt me to see her picture every time that I signed on. So I got rid of myspace a little over a week ago. Now I also need to explain an issue that is really hard to talk about, and something that I am not proud about but it needs to be discussed since it deals with the issue I had today. A little over a year ago I was on a chat room, and met a girl on there who basically sent me revealing pictures of her. Later on I received a message on facebook from the girls mother a few months later explaining that the girl was underage, and that she was going to try to have me put in jail for doing something so awful. I felt awful. I knew it was a terrible thing to do, and it honestly is something that I regret doing, and something I know I will never do again in my life. I had learned my lesson. I ended up confessing to my gf at the time, as well as my parents because I felt so disgusted with myself. My gf, and I got through it. We talked about it, and we moved forward. I know I never should of even been in a site like that, and I still feel awful about it even though we arent together anymore. Now about a few days ago she imed me asking me why I canceled my myspace page, and I told her because I had facebook, and I wasn't geting enough comments or much of anything to just leave it there. I didn't tell her at the time that it was mainly because of her, and I didn't want to look at the picture of her every time I signed on. So now fast forward to this morning, and I get a text from her. The text basically read I know why you really canceled your myspace page. And then I replied with "and would that be". I thought she was going to say I know your not over me or something to that extent, but she wrote back moments later saying "It's because of that girl". At the time I didn't even know what she meant by that so I asked her to elaborate. She then said that it was because of the young girl that gave you pictures on the internet. I was in total, and complete shock. I couldn't believe she actually thought that was the reason. So then I told her that the real reason was because of her, and I didn't want to deal with that anymore. She then basically just said "oh well im sorry that you felt like you had to do that" or something to that extent. I texted her one more time asking her why she would honestly accuse me of something like that. I said you probably just wanted to get a reaction out of me, and see if i still miss you because girls have done that in the past, and it seems like after reading on here that many others have felt that way as well. She wrote back saying it wasn't true and that she now felt bad. My question is could it be possible that she just wanted some kind of reaction? That issue with the girl happened a long time ago, and I find it extremely strange that she would come to that conclusion as to why I canceled my account. I then talked to my roommate about it and he added something that I didn't even think about. He said why should she even care anymore about what your doing? I have been struggling with that all day, and cant get it outta my mind. Please please help me with some insight. I am now really upset about all of this, and could use some kind of help. Anything please!
Author tinker Posted February 1, 2008 Author Posted February 1, 2008 Any insight at all? Please....I thought I was starting to get over her, and then she leaves that rediculous text....I couldnt even concentrate in class today.
MattyTee Posted February 1, 2008 Posted February 1, 2008 Any insight at all? Please....I thought I was starting to get over her, and then she leaves that rediculous text....I couldnt even concentrate in class today. Hey buddy, I'm sorry to hear that you are going through a rough patch. Firstly, well done on talking about something that is difficult for you. It's always a good sign when people are able to open up and be honest. With regards to your situation, I've seen this time and time again on Loveshack (and I went through it as well). There can be, and probably are, many, many reasons for all the things that people do and say. One thing is certain, you will drive yourself insane in trying to read into what other people are doing. Something I found worked for me was to keep things simple, don't let people play games with you. If you take a step back and say to yourself whatever the reason my ex has for being interested, it doesn't matter. At the end of the day if she's trying to find something out about you, or showing that she still cares or just simply jealous - well that's not your problem and don't make it such. If she needs to tell you something you have to trust that she'll be able to do that. One thing I can promise you (because I've been there) is you will find the edge of sanity in trying to read other people's actions. You will find your life much more peaceful if you try your best to let it wash over you. I wish you all the best Tinker. I hope what I've said makes sense
Author tinker Posted February 1, 2008 Author Posted February 1, 2008 I know I need to try and forget about another persons actions. I guess I just still care for her so much that all of these things bother me.
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