Confused2008 Posted January 31, 2008 Posted January 31, 2008 (edited) Hi, I wonder if I can get some help here. I have been married for over 14 years,and I loved my wife alot, but since my wife got pregnant 9 years ago and gave birth to a baby girl,things have changed, my love have faded very quickly towards her, I started liking her like freind or a cousin only and nothing else,but do respect her alot and worry about her, our sexual relationship stopped since,I started sleeping in a different room and somehow couldn't stand married life but i had to keep on for the sake of my daughter,I didn't want her to be without a father. Month later after my daughter was born, I met a nice lady,we started going out secretly, she new I was married and had baby, but we kept going out,travelling abroad and having fun,I really started loving her alot and her the same she loved me alot,so I started living double life.Spend the day with her and at night Im back home to wife and baby. The story kept on going for 9 years as a girlfriend and boyfriend, of which I left my house and lived with my her for a year then moved back again to my house with the wife because I felt sorry for her and the baby,but still kept going out with my girlfriend. Now 9 years later and excactly last August my girlfriend asked me to get married to her, I was shocked and told her to wait a bit, but she insisted,so I said ok, she fixed the date for Abril this year. As the days were approaching the wedding date, I started getting confussed and hesitante.I thought I could no way leave my wife and daughter and get married, the same time I could not afford to loose my girlfriend because I love her alot. So I went around her house and told her to postpone the marriage date,she asked me why,so I told her I have some problems at work. I couldn't convince her, so she told me if we don't get married on that date, she will never get married to me and she will leave me and walk out from the relation. Then she started crying asked me to leave her house. I left and few minutes later I thought I lost something very important in my life, I was lost and didn't know what to do I felt sad and miserable. The next day I called her and wanted to see her for few minutes, her reply was that she doesn't love any more,doesn't miss me and I shouldn't call or see her at all.I wonder how can you stop loving somebody over night after 9 years of a happy relationship?? Since then I feel shattered and don't know what to do. I miss her like crazy and can't stop thinking of her. I can't leave my wife and daughter and get married because I feel bad for them, the same time its very very hard for me let go my girlfriend because I love her alot. Very confussing. Edited January 31, 2008 by Confused2008
cj1988 Posted January 31, 2008 Posted January 31, 2008 Dude, you need serious HELP we cannot give .....how can you call yourself a man......9 years. Stop feeling sorry for your W and let her find someone worthy of her, you are not ! How can people like you do that for SOOOO long and still look at yourself in the mirror with respect?
ANGUISHEDandBROKEN Posted January 31, 2008 Posted January 31, 2008 Sould have left your wife 9 years ago..... She would be happy rght now with soemone else.... Your daughter would have been raised just the same but with another man....you would pay child support. And you would be happy right now also and rid of this big mess. Or maybe not....because you would probably have found someone else if you were to be with the girlfriend.... You should go live in the Middle East, at least there you would be a Sultan and have all the women you want and support them, and have no problems with it. Good luck, I hope all turns out well for your family and yourself and your girlfriend....
hassline Posted January 31, 2008 Posted January 31, 2008 lets not make fun of him or his story and try to help him out of this really big problem.................. good luck.
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