broke/but not broken Posted January 31, 2008 Posted January 31, 2008 my gf of 4 years and i broke up a few of months ago. i have always been a late bloomer, so it has not really hit me until this last month or so that it is all over. I miss her and still have very strong feelings for her. I know i am not capable to move on right now and date. i am trying to focus on myself and become a better person so i dont carry bad feelings into another relationship. therefore i am alone with temptation to contact her. the question i have is, how do you all stay strong in this modern world. my ex has a myspace page and i am constantly tempted to look at it, to e-mail her, to try and call her cell. it is all that much harder since i work in an office where i am constantly on-line. i try to stay focused on my work, but even when you have a five minute break to let the brain rest the temptation starts. But even when working, when the phone rings, e-mail comes in, and stuff like that, i almost loose my breathe because of anxiety that she might be calling, or e-mailing. I am tired of all this anxiety, what can i do about this considering i have to work with a computer all day?
amaysngrace Posted January 31, 2008 Posted January 31, 2008 Give up that hope. She isn't calling. She isn't emailing you. So she probably doesn't have anything up about you on her myspace. She doesn't care enough to seek you out. I'm sorry if that sounds completely awful but it's true. She knows how to reach you. She doesn't try to. You need to give up that notion that she's gonna call you. It just isn't going to happen.
g1976b Posted January 31, 2008 Posted January 31, 2008 I can relate, man. I'm in the exact same spot except it's only been a couple of weeks for me. She's made it very clear that it's over, but she won't definitively say that we will NEVER date again. Tough to move on from that. For me, it makes it harder in that she's been living with me for a year. I look around this place and all I see is her. What we've done, her furniture, clothes, etc. I know I need to move on, but I don't know how. I can't eat, I can't sleep. I work at a computer all day and CONSTANTLY am tempted to check and see if she's emailed me, check her facebook page (big mistake so far) and anytime my phone rings or I get a text there's that instant surge of adrenaline. It sucks. I keep hearing it will go away, but I truly hope it's soon. I've lost 10 pounds so far already and just don't feel like doing anything. Hang in there man. Let's both make it through this damn thing. It hurts like crazy, but life is worth living.
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