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First of all I'd like to say that I am a new member of LoveShack (I just registered today) and I never thought I would ever spill my beans to an online community, but here I go....

 

 

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 3 years (anniversary is Valentine's Day) and we are in a long-distance relationship. The majority of our relationship has been long distance. Towards the beginning of our relationship we experienced the high's that most couples do...we got along perfectly fine, but somewhere down the line, we began to argue....

 

As the months progressed we argued more....keep in mind that we love each other very much and are finding a hard time figuring out the reasons behind our arguments.

 

Just recently my boyfriend has been acting distant...I finally had a talk with him and he said he is tired of the arguing but loves me very much and wants us to work, but he doesn't understand why they are happening. He is also confused about if he wants to be alone or with me....which confuses me!

 

Our break has been going on for a week, yet we continue to call one another because it is extremely hard for both of us to let go.....especially hard for me because I want to work our relationship out and am willing to make changes...I'll do whatever it takes to make this relationship work because I love him dearly. I was infuriated with him for proposing a break, but he keeps insisting that this is the BEST thing for us to do...that it will strengthen us....that he is in love with me, but is confused about what he should do.

 

I'm infuriated, confused, upset because I don't want to take a break. To me breaks signify an end to a relationship. I am confused about whether he really loves me or not...if he will ever come back or if it is truly over. Ofcourse I gave him what he wants because I respect his feelings....can someone please give me advice or any important information regarding this situation. Thanks so much!

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i agree with you that a break is an end to the relationship. my ex and i went on a break before and then a couple of years later we finally completely split up because of her infidelity. if a person truly loves you, he/ she will make all possible sacrifices for you and you would do the same. i don't agree that he's confused about being alone. ask him whether he is trying to play the field. it's better that you don't have anything to do with him during this time. good luck to you.

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I did and he said he is not trying to play the field...he's just confused on whether he should give our relationship another try and work out our differences or if he should just be alone...he simply doesn't want to go through MORE constant arguments which is understandable...and at times I've felt this way....he keeps telling me that he loves me....and even though he's confused, at the end of the day he loves me and doesn't want to lose me....I just can't stand this break any more...it's hurts so bad........but I still have hope in us....something in my heart won't let that die....

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a break can either be helpfull and make you relationship stronger or it can completely ruin your relationship and break it off for good.

 

me and my bf went on a break for 1 month and when he came back he was a completly different person...he isnt the same as before...all im saying is be prepared for anything because he might get used to not being with you and not come back and will just want to be your friend, OR he might get used to the idea of acting single but come back to you and act like he was acting when he was on the break with you. It all depends on how he feels towards you after the break.

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