bmrrll07 Posted January 31, 2008 Posted January 31, 2008 The guy i'm seeing is making me a little confused. we have been seeing each other for about a month now, we work together which makes things a little complated. so we agreed to take it slow, you would never know that we are together when we are at work. our normal rutain is to go to his place after work. we cuddle up and watch a movie and talk, then we end up sleeping to gether. i've only stayed the night twice, because he lives right across the street from work and we dont' want coworkers to see my car. he is always very affectate with me, even after sex. which is more then i can say for the guys i've dated before. i know hes not just useing me for sex. we get along great. the problem is that he has told me that he don't get attacated emoional very easly. and that hes not in a place in his life right now to have a girlfriend. so i'm getting hot and cold vibes from him. i really like him and enjoy our times to gether. but i do want more. and i'm a fraid that i will get hurt, because i have feelings for him and not sure if he has feelings for me. or will have feeling for me. what is going on with this guy? should i stay and wait it out or i'm i just waisting my time on him?
backspn Posted January 31, 2008 Posted January 31, 2008 we agreed to take it slow Good plan. taking it slow will strengthen the relationship. You have to grow emotionally before taking the next step. 1 month isnt long at all. then we end up sleeping to gether Thats not taking it slow. If you like this guy and want more slow it down now. Let him know you want to slow it down and wait on the sex. He may pull away but men are like rubberbands....they always come back. the problem is that he has told me that he don't get attacated emoional very easly. and that hes not in a place in his life right now to have a girlfriend My suggestion is if you like physical with no emotion then go for it. I could never do it. I would move on now before you fall for him.
Author bmrrll07 Posted January 31, 2008 Author Posted January 31, 2008 he did end up say one night that he was sorry it got physical with us so soon.
backspn Posted January 31, 2008 Posted January 31, 2008 I would see where it leads then if the physical is out for now. Most you can do is get hurt but everyone gets hurt and grows from it. We find what we want in a mate from our bad experiences and what we dont want. Have fun. Dont rush into things. Enjoy him.
reliance Posted February 1, 2008 Posted February 1, 2008 I think he has been straight out with you telling he doesnt want a girlfriend in his life right now. Looks as though he sees you as a "friend with benefits" sort of thing...
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