Islander Posted January 31, 2008 Posted January 31, 2008 Hello there people on Love Shack. This I think will be my last thread. Over the last nearly two weeks I have felt so much from my break up and I would like to share it with you as it may make some people smile. Me and my girlfriend had been going out for just under a year when we seperated. We had the perfect bond. I have never been happier with anyone ever in my life. She was my best friend, as well as my girlfriend and my first love. We never argued, we were the hyper, mental couple who were always smiling! The first thing i complemented her on was her perfect smile. (If you see her you would know what I mean!!) Over the last 6 months it had turned into a long distance relationship as she had moved to another city to study at Uni. After the summer and when she moved away things got tough. We started arguing for the first time ever. It was scary for both of us. We would say this. We would argue and then within hours, a day was the longest, we would be back keeping each other happy. But things got tougher. Arguements began to happen everytime we meeted. It was highs and lows kind of relationship at the time. I made my first ever Christmas dinner for us to enjoy! (Did it perfectly as well I may add!!) For New Year she came to my home. Things were good. And then, two weeks into the New Year and things seemed to take a turn for the worse. Nothing actually happened. We hadn't argued since before Christmas. One night, she came past mine, and was quiet. (All guys know that when they're quiet, something bad is going to happen.) We split up. Things were getting to hard for her being away. She said, "the more and more I love you, the harder it gets." I understood, but wanted to try and work it out. We both cryed. I have never cryed like I did that night. No one has ever meant that much to me in my intire life. I wanted to fight for her. I've always heard about fighting for someone that you love and I knew what it meant there. We were kissing and saying I love you and crying until she drove home. I have never wept so much in my life. I blocked up the toilet with all the used tissues!! We were texting later on to make sure we were alright. That night I couldn't sleep. I couldn't do a thing but look at her picutres I have on my wall. (My wall is covered in photos of good times.) I wrote her a e-mail saying about all the good times and that I wanted to fight for us and that I couldn't believe a strong woman like herself would want to give up like that. The next night I couldn't sleep either. I was up on the internet all night waiting for a response to my e-mail. I started looking up websites on how to get your girl back. This is how I found Love Shack. I started praying. I'm not incredibly religious but it made me feel better. The next day I took of from college. I could face doing anything but lying in my bed, with the internet on waiting for a response. That night, I started praying. I said I knew you were not meant to be selfish and pray for yourself but I needed too. I gave up things as a sign of my faith. I would rather have been taken away, with everyone elses pain, that live without her. I started by sitting on the edge of my bed, to kneeling on the floor, to lying face down on the floor, crying and snotting everywhere. But then, after a pause, I said I love her. INSTANTLY, I stopped crying, snotting and feeling sad. I got up and sat down. I felt fine. As the week went on, I constantly had my computer on waiting for a response. We spoke a few times through the week. But the thing I didn't get was, I felt fine. Yes, at night times, lying and praying in bed I missed her bad. But I felt fine during the majority of the day. I wasn't really doing anything like I should have been to get her off my mind, I just felt fine. Tonight, we spoke. She had read the e-mail, but didn't want to get back together. That sounds harsh how i've put it! I did, what i think maybe a natrual people reaction and asked if they're was someone else. She said of course not!! She couldn't do that to us. I then asked if i could be honest. I told her that I felt fine. She said she had too. Its like we needed to become ourselfs again. We spoke some more, asking questions about our relationship and saying we still want to be great friends and make time for us. We then said good night, I thanked her for all the things she had given me and we agreed to meet soon. I said I Love You for the last time to her. My advice to you people out there who are hurting. It sucks, I know. Love is the greatest thing in the world, but it can also be a kick in the balls at the same time. Love the people your with, not just your boyfriends and girlfriends, husbands and wives, but everyone like your friends. Make everyones hearts glow the same way mine did, does. Be nice and give in from time to time if you agrue alot. Just step up and say, "I'm sorry. Your right. I love you." Guys, don't be afriad to be wrong and let them win and girls, give us a chance, we really do try our hardest! Dont forget the simple things you did together at the start of your relationships. I think there comes a time in every relationship were you change and maybe become a little...worse is the only way I can describe it. You cant change the past, but you can always wind the clock back. Remember the old times and keep that beautiful spark that you have lit alive. That is my story. Please, people of the internet, spread the love and smile. You only get one life.
hayati Posted January 31, 2008 Posted January 31, 2008 Great story man. You seem to be on the right track. You do know that when she said we'll meet soon, she was just being nice. Don't contact her again........keep it up!
Author Islander Posted January 31, 2008 Author Posted January 31, 2008 Sorry should have said we said we would give each ther two weeks and she would write me. I know what you mean hayati, I know women like that, but it she ain't that kind. Her old ex are best buddies after they split up. But i do know excatly what you mean!
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