jumping-jacks Posted January 31, 2008 Posted January 31, 2008 Met a girl at a party, got her number, talked to her once on the phone, texted for a few days. For whatever myriad of reasons, I won't list them (trust me I rationalized it using plenty of them) I asked her out with a text. I know it should never be done. Anyway she laughingly gave me a hard time about it and agreed to a date. The way I work I'm going to make a HUGE deal about it (to myself) when I know its not one. I would also have a tendency to try to explain myself to her, but will forcefully not bring it up at all. Thoughts?
THE THRONE Posted January 31, 2008 Posted January 31, 2008 She laughingly gave you a hard time and accepted the date. Why are you making an issue out of it? The main thing here is that she accepted the date. If she brings it up again, tell her the reason why you texted, and didn't call, was because you lost your voice screaming while some hot babe gave you a bj. If you don't tell her that just tell her something to lighten the mood. Don't go explaining things and grovelling like a worm.
gfto Posted January 31, 2008 Posted January 31, 2008 I agree with The Throne. She accepted a date. What's the problem? Of course, we still have to see whether she actually shows up for the date.
Author jumping-jacks Posted January 31, 2008 Author Posted January 31, 2008 Basically I'm just trying to mitigate it in my mind. I irrationally focus on minor and irrelevant mistakes. Actually I haven't said what time or where. I can almost guarantee the reason I texted will be reinforced when I call to do this and she doesn't answer. My reason to text was our crazy schedules and I hate phone tag. (Sometimes 6-10 hours between texts.)
gfto Posted January 31, 2008 Posted January 31, 2008 Actually I haven't said what time or where. Uh-oh. My friend, you do not have a date with a girl until you have asked for a specific time and place, and she says, "great! see ya then." When you ask a girl if she'd like to go on a date with you in the general sense without pinning down the details, it's easy for her to say "yes" even if she has no intention of going out with you. I hope it all works out for you, but don't be surprised if she gets wishy-washy and throws out all kinds of lame excuses when you try to pin down the date.
backspn Posted January 31, 2008 Posted January 31, 2008 I agree with Throne and GTFO. You ALWAYS need to nail it down. This time you call her!
THE THRONE Posted January 31, 2008 Posted January 31, 2008 Basically I'm just trying to mitigate it in my mind. I irrationally focus on minor and irrelevant mistakes. Actually I haven't said what time or where. I can almost guarantee the reason I texted will be reinforced when I call to do this and she doesn't answer. My reason to text was our crazy schedules and I hate phone tag. (Sometimes 6-10 hours between texts.) Stop trying to mitigate in your mind. Stop focusing irrationally on minor and irrelevant mistakes. I used to do this a lot, but now I only do it every once in a while (thanks to the doctrine of the Seven-Legged Lamb.) Do NOT reinforce anything when you call. You don't owe anyone an explanation as to why you texted, and if she brings it up again put it on the back burner by either joking about it yourself or making some smart alec remark about it. Whatever you do make it light and simple because it isn't a serious issue.
Star Gazer Posted January 31, 2008 Posted January 31, 2008 No mistake...yet. To nail down the date, give her a call. Set a firm time and place...and then you're golden. I'd suggest a shot of Patron (or two) before you go too, to loosen ya up.
Author jumping-jacks Posted January 31, 2008 Author Posted January 31, 2008 No mistake...yet. To nail down the date, give her a call. Set a firm time and place...and then you're golden. I'd suggest a shot of Patron (or two) before you go too, to loosen ya up. Best advice ever... Seriously, and not just because I love patron shots. Anyway, I did talk to her on the phone and did nail it down, I made a joke about "call" you later, so its cool. Thanks guys.
THE THRONE Posted January 31, 2008 Posted January 31, 2008 Best advice ever... Seriously, and not just because I love patron shots. Anyway, I did talk to her on the phone and did nail it down, I made a joke about "call" you later, so its cool. Thanks guys. THE THRONE gave you the best advice ever. THE THRONE forced you to look at your wimpiness and forsake it. If it wasn't for him, you would have been begging and explaining yourself to this woman (and she most likely would have just given you some random BS), so you need to thank him for his contribution to humanity.
Author jumping-jacks Posted January 31, 2008 Author Posted January 31, 2008 ^ Thanks throne, didn't mean to leave you out.
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