sab123 Posted January 31, 2008 Posted January 31, 2008 (edited) Hey all, new to the forums, believe this is the right place to post so here goes. Basically met this girl that i like, she lives in the same res as me, things didn't think id be interested in her, but i can't even remember how it started but we began talking more and more. eventually id hang out in her room for long periods at a time, we'd talk on msn on occassion and id see her almost everyday whether it be deliberate (like us just kinda hanging out talking etc) or just seeing her around. I didn't do anything really but near the last days before our christmas break i said we should hang out when we are back in my hometown, cause conveniently she is from the same place. she agreed and eventually over the break i took her out to a coffee shop for a bit, hung out had a great talk laughed and found common interests...ended with a hug cause i didn't try to push for anything further, at a party later on, i saw her and i was drunk and so was she, but i mentioned about how i liked her and such and she mentioned "just friends" seems the phrase thats always placed on me...but anyways so i basically pushed her away for a while whenever i saw her i tried to ignore or if i had to talk i was very just not energetic and happy like i used to be with her...one night at this dance thingy she had mentioned why was i being like such way, i told her, that i cared too much to be just friends, and no matter what i would try i couldn't change the way i feel about her...so that sorta happened a couple weeks ago..and i talked to her and partied and such didn't really try to do anything. now we started hanging out more for some reason i see her more often and im trying to be more touchy feely, without being forceful of course. but it has been confusing me for a while and i don't know what to do... we joke around and insult each other, and we will like look into each others eyes quite a bit and just random things like that and we always have good times whenever we hang out i believe we always laugh and just feel as if their is something more there... maybe im trying to force myself there is but i just can't get her out of my head ive been trying to move on and ive been in situations like this where ive been able to shake the chick out and move on this one just won't get off my mind.... The only thing i could think of is that there is someone back home who is quote " kinda seeing" but i don't know much about that and from what ive gathered doesn't seem like much she doesn't really talk about him when im around though so i don't know...im just so lost and confused and yeah just had to share it with some people who would give me some external view points. Thanks in advance... Also i don't know if it means anything but like i can be close to her like within the personal space range when we are just like sitting around and such, and she doesn't like move away or anything so i don't know i assume that means she is atleast a bit comfortable with me, aha. As well if we are hanging out ill occasionally bring up like "yeah ive been here a while if you need to do something i can leave" and she'll reply with something along the lines of "you can stay" etc...dunno just adding more for peoples reading... Edited January 31, 2008 by sab123
Author sab123 Posted January 31, 2008 Author Posted January 31, 2008 Also if anyone has any tips on what i could to really test it, like physically like should i like try to touch her more like in general that probably sounds weird but you know what i mean? as well anything anyone suggests would be awesome...cause i really need some outside opinions here.
Lucasarts Posted January 31, 2008 Posted January 31, 2008 i'd say get really touchy feely, or just kiss her spur of the moment things will get the biggest reaction (maybe good maybe bad) either way you'll be able to know where you stand with her. Seems like you guys are really good friends and even though she knows how you feel she still keeps hanging out with you (maybe she is developing feelings for you as well. . . but like i said the only way to know is to take the shot in the dark).
Author sab123 Posted January 31, 2008 Author Posted January 31, 2008 (edited) thanks lucasarts. yeah i assumed thats probably what ill have to do, its just tough cause im scared almost of what her response will be, i really like hanging out with her but its tearing me up inside not knowing, so i guess ill just bite the bullet and give it a shot, see if she wants to watch a move in my room later on and see how things go from there. hopefully ill have some positive news to bring back. I also forgot to mention at one point we were just hanging out and she drew a silly little picture for me it was simple just me and her standing in a field like deliberately drawn like a kid... but she gave it to me.. and it meant alot to me, and one after a bunch of random things i gave it back to her. then the other day i was in my room and slid something underneath my door it was the picture it had been ripped and she taped it back together and put it there. i asked her about it and she didn't know cause she said she didn't rip it, and i was drinking as was she when i gave it to her but it wasn't ripped then but yeah anyways. so i don't know i almost feel like giving it back to her, or possibly writing something on it first, i dunno. we'll see how things go... again any suggestions. are welcomed Edited February 1, 2008 by sab123
Author sab123 Posted February 1, 2008 Author Posted February 1, 2008 ALSO! ahaha sorry i edited a bunch but thought i would start a new one again, with regards to the picture, she drew, right now i drew another one, it seems so childish in a sense but i don't know i drew a replica of the picture except we are holding hands instead. i don't know im contemplating sliding it under her door but i don't again i really need some help here...
Lucasarts Posted February 1, 2008 Posted February 1, 2008 okay, i guess its sorta cute that you 2 are drawing pictures of each other, for each other. That sorta means that you guys like each other enough to envision you two together. . . I'd say make your move now. Stop over analyzing and just do it already. She sounds like the type that wants you to take control and just kiss her. Make out with her and then come back here. Do it when your both drunk if you want, that way you can say the alcohol was an excuse, and all the mixed signals that she was sending you made you think that she wanted it to happen.
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