Mr Zandos Posted January 31, 2008 Posted January 31, 2008 I was dumpped by my ex girlfriend over a week ago, I really want her back, I was told by a friend to try and make her jealous, easy enough to do but without her seeing me or talking to me how do I do this? Well, I got a friend (female/attractive) to message my my space and 12 hours after she did send me a message my ex got in touch to see how I was, we sent about 15 txts, it is still over but I know that 99% of the reasons she gave for ending it were false, it all came down to trust, I know I have a long way to go to get the trust back (I never hit her/cheeted or abused her), I just got paranoid and spoke to people about us, she did not like this and I lost her trust, I don't blame her at all, this is all my fault, but do you think the jealousy thing can work to get her back?
D-Lish Posted January 31, 2008 Posted January 31, 2008 The secret to getting her jealous is to NOT answer the texts she sends you. She broke up with you right? SO, have your sexy conversations with your attractive female friend and ignore the ex. When you engaged in a text conversation with her all you did was give her reassurance you still like her and want to be with her. That contact you gave her negated the whole having someone send you a sexy message. She's still reassured you haven't moved on, so she has no reason to worry about anything. You want to make it look like you are moving on if you want to drive her crazy. It will be tempting to answer her texts- but the jealousy thing won't work if you keep having contact with her. No contact mode- that's your solution.... trust me.
Ronni_W Posted January 31, 2008 Posted January 31, 2008 ...and I lost her trust, ... do you think the jealousy thing can work to get her back? I'm not sure that playing games and using jealousy is the best way to rebuild trust -- if you want to see if she might consider going out with you again, why not just ask her the next time you guys get into text exchanges? (I'm guessing that's your goal or you wouldn't be bothering with the whole thing of fake MySpace messages.)
LoveLace Posted January 31, 2008 Posted January 31, 2008 The jealousy game is just that...a GAME. For one thing, it's usually fairly obvious when one is trying to play it. So the opposing team will either just ignore it, or try to play it back just to make you think it's not working. But in this case you won't necessarily know if they are playing the game too, or if what your seeing is real, so either way you sit there and feel hurt. In other words if you play this game, no one really wins so why bother? It's a lot of work for something that won't give you the result your hoping for. I tried this game with an Ex of mine once. I made sure that he saw me talking to guys all the time. But all it did was make him think I was slutty. I would see him talking to chicks all the time, too. If I thought he was trying to make me jealous, it p*ssed me off. If I thought he was just a womanizer, that p*ssed me off, too. Later down the road I realized he truly liked me, but my games only pushed him further away because I was confusing him. Of course this mess led to no where. So I don't advise it!
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