Ilm Posted January 31, 2008 Posted January 31, 2008 I posted this in the general discussion forums but I think I should have posted it here... My situation is unique so I really thought I needed some help. First of all I'm young, In my early teens. I met a girl over the internet 4 years ago and we became great friends. About 2 years ago we both took a big step and said we loved each other and for a while everything was great. She lives about 3000 miles away from me (I live on the west coast and she lives on the east) so our relationship has been entirely long distance and we've only talked over an instant messenger or on the phone. I tell you all of this just to give you background information, none of that is what I view as my "problem". My problem is that I really don't feel that I love her anymore. At first all I could ever think about was her, or what she was thinking, or what she was feeling. And now I think that we are just too different... For example, she's incredibly outgoing where-as I am a very shy "nerd" as it were. We have never gotten into a fight or anything like that but I just don't feel the same way about her. Should I tell her this? Should I just try to look past it? As someone so inexperienced as I am help is greatly appreciated. Thank you all in advance.
NickP Posted January 31, 2008 Posted January 31, 2008 Hey Ilm. U called urself a "nerd".. Do u think it's ur self-esteem that's making u feel you and her aren't a good match? Maybe a shy-kinda-guy is the kind of guy she's looking for? Sometimes opposites do attract. If you do think that things arent working out though, it's better to be open & honest about that. Communication & Honesty are KEY in any relationship.. hiding things from one another would only make things worse. I'm sure if she ever felt like she wasn't sure if she liked you still, you would want to know right? Hope this helped. Nick
Author Ilm Posted January 31, 2008 Author Posted January 31, 2008 Well first of all I don't view nerd as a bad word, my friends and I are computer gamers and such so we've just adopted the word. Thanks though Nick, you did help. I guess I am just hesitant because I don't want to hurt her and this would definitely change our relationship... Is there any way to approach it? Or should I just simply tell her I don't feel as strongly towards her as I used to?
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