CIE Posted January 30, 2008 Posted January 30, 2008 Hi everyone, I'll start by giving you a little back story. I am a 25 year old guy and I have a pretty big crush on a coworker of mine. She is a few years younger than I am and over the course of the last 5 month she and I have gotten to know each other very well. We work in a small office, 10 people work here at most, but I see her and work closely with her on a daily basis. Now, I have never been the best looking guy, I know it, and as a matter of fact I can't recall the last time I had a date (I had a post about that a year ago or so). But this girl, from day one, has shown an interest in me and has been a good friend ever since. She calls me frequently just to chat during downtimes at work, we usually have lunch together and usually order two different things and end up sharing, and we both initiate physical contact on a usual basis. Friendly poke, nudges, or she'll grab my arm and beckon me over to where she wants me to take a look at something for her. We get along very well, often sharing laughs, and although we share mostly the same tastes and opinions there are some differences as well. For example, being young people we both enjoy going out, but she prefers clubbing where I prefer an Irish pub. Our friendship goes a little beyond the office as well, she often calls me in the mornings or evenings just to chat for a bit, and of course I call her too. The Dilemma : I really value her friendship. I haven't been this happy in a long time, even when I feel down she always manages to cheer me up and pull a smile out of me. The kind of friendship we share is the kind I would want to have with a Girlfriend. So here are my two problems. First I do not want to lose the friendship I have with her by asking her out. The second problem I have, that kind of takes care of the first one for me to some extent, is that she is kind of seeing someone. She keeps telling me she is not too sure about him because he is younger than her but that he is really nice to her. However, I wouldn't want her to cheat. I can handle it if we give it a try and it doesn't work out, but for so long now I don't even get that chance. Nobody has ever shown that kind of interest in me. So what can I do, either to get that chance with her, or just to put my feelings for her aside without harming our friendship. Thank you for reading this mess and for your input.
bmrrll07 Posted January 31, 2008 Posted January 31, 2008 let me start by frist saying she likes you alot. she mit be confused by the fact she is seeing someone and wants to give him a chance. and mit be scared of dating somone she works with. i know i'm seeing someone i work with and its scary. for the fact if it don't work is it going to affect my work. and i can work out, me and him work like nothing is going on and know to be proftional. which if you ever do date this girl i would talk to her about what you except because you work together. i would right now just give it time and let things go as they are going right now. i wish the best of luck to you and hope to hear in a update you to are seeing each other.
norajane Posted January 31, 2008 Posted January 31, 2008 I wouldn't make any moves until she stops seeing the other guy.
Author CIE Posted February 1, 2008 Author Posted February 1, 2008 I wouldn't make any moves anyway. As I said I wouldn't want her to be unfaithful and if she were I'm not sure that I would want to have a relationship with her if she did. But in the meantime the problem remains... I don't want to lose our friendship, but I want it to be something more.
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