4everloveu Posted January 30, 2008 Posted January 30, 2008 Sometime I feel tired and don't have confindence to find true love again. After so many broken heart, I just feel weak and afraid my heart will brake again. I know I deserve better, but it's so hard to find someone that truly love you and care for you. I'm not picky but if it not the right person, I would rather wait. Did anyone have the same feeling as me.
Audg1964 Posted January 30, 2008 Posted January 30, 2008 Tis better to wait and be single than it is to be in a bad relationship just for the sake of being with someone. Do you have any hobbies that you like to do?
EYECANDY000 Posted January 30, 2008 Posted January 30, 2008 why do you feel like if you havent found someone yet, then you wont ever find someone?
Author 4everloveu Posted January 30, 2008 Author Posted January 30, 2008 I go to the gym sometime, or hang out with friend. I been in a few long term relationships. But it doesn't work out for some reason. I rather be single than end up in a bad relationship. I found someone but than it slip out of my hand. Did I do something wrong? I don't think so, I alway love and care for the person that I'm with. But sometime that is not enough for them.
backspn Posted January 30, 2008 Posted January 30, 2008 I was in the same situation. I got divorced when I was 33 and went in and out of relationships. The one thing I took out of each is a learning experience. I found out what I didnt want in a mate and what I wanted. I have finally met someone I care deeply for, it took 6 years to find her. You will find it but negativity will keep people from you. Be positive and know the "one" is still out there and you will find love.
Author 4everloveu Posted January 30, 2008 Author Posted January 30, 2008 I was in the same situation. I got divorced when I was 33 and went in and out of relationships. The one thing I took out of each is a learning experience. I found out what I didnt want in a mate and what I wanted. I have finally met someone I care deeply for, it took 6 years to find her. You will find it but negativity will keep people from you. Be positive and know the "one" is still out there and you will find love. Thank you, I told myself so many time that love will come when it at the right time. You don't have to hunt for it and when you least expect, it will find you. I'm not sure if that is true but I told myself not to give up to find the true love of my life.
Art_Critic Posted January 30, 2008 Posted January 30, 2008 (edited) I had my heart broken at 40 years of age (of course it wasn't my first heartbreak though ).. that heartbreak brought me to LS looking for ways to cope... I healed.. albeit after making a fool out of myself for not listening to the advice on NC.. I never thought I would love again.. I'm 44 today ( almost 45 ) and my newlywed wife and I are expecting our first child on Feb 29th... I met the love of my life via online dating and she has shown me that I'm capable of love again... You will love again.. I promise Edited January 30, 2008 by Art_Critic
LucreziaBorgia Posted January 30, 2008 Posted January 30, 2008 Did anyone have the same feeling as me. You betcha. I'm right there with you.
Author 4everloveu Posted January 30, 2008 Author Posted January 30, 2008 I had my heart broken at 40 years of age (of course it wasn't my first heartbreak though ).. that heartbreak brought me to LS looking for ways to cope... I healed.. albeit after making a fool out of myself for not listening to the advice on NC.. I never thought I would love again.. I'm 44 today ( almost 45 ) and my newlywed wife and I are expecting our first child on Feb 29th... I met the love of my life via online dating and she has shown me that I'm capable of love again... You will love again.. I promise thank you, and congrad to you. Sometime I feel man are different than women. Man still look good even at their 50's, but women seem to grow old fast. Fast forward another year I'll turn 40's, and I feel the older I grew is hard to find the right person.
Curmudgeon Posted January 30, 2008 Posted January 30, 2008 Sometime I feel tired and don't have confindence to find true love again. After so many broken heart, I just feel weak and afraid my heart will brake again. I know I deserve better, but it's so hard to find someone that truly love you and care for you. I'm not picky but if it not the right person, I would rather wait. Did anyone have the same feeling as me. Nobody's that old, are they? A whole 39? I was 50 and had been divorced/single for years. She was 48 and had been divorced/single for 18 years. Now I'm 61 and she's 59. But we've also been married for going on 12 years. Neither of us thought it possible. Now we know better. You will too!
Art_Critic Posted January 30, 2008 Posted January 30, 2008 thank you, and congrad to you. Sometime I feel man are different than women. Man still look good even at their 50's, but women seem to grow old fast. Fast forward another year I'll turn 40's, and I feel the older I grew is hard to find the right person. Thanks 4everloveu.. I think it can be different for woman.. but not always.. My wife is younger than me but only by 5 years.. I think some woman try to hold onto their youth because they feel like they have to compete with younger woman and that can make them look even older....
marlena Posted January 30, 2008 Posted January 30, 2008 Foreverloveu, I am much older than you. I can not say whether you will find love again or not. I will only say this based on my own experience: I found love at 16, then at 19, than at 23, then at 46. Each and every time, I thought that I would never find love again. Marlena
Author 4everloveu Posted January 30, 2008 Author Posted January 30, 2008 I found love when I was 23 years old. 4.5 years of relationship and didn't date again until 35 another 3 years relationship. I think there hope or at least I can hope one day I'll find true love. I have never been marriage before, alway been single. My friend told me that sometime it better to be single than marriaged b/c she going through divorced with three kids. She said at least I'm still single and easy to look for a partner and I don't find myself any lucky than anyone else.
cammy37 Posted March 7, 2008 Posted March 7, 2008 Sometime I feel tired and don't have confindence to find true love again. After so many broken heart, I just feel weak and afraid my heart will brake again. I know I deserve better, but it's so hard to find someone that truly love you and care for you. I'm not picky but if it not the right person, I would rather wait. Did anyone have the same feeling as me. having just joined this site and whilst looking through the dating forum, i spotted your question and had to write to you immediately... i am turning 38 this year, and like you, have had my heart broken so many times, leaving me feeling exhausted, vulnerable and lacking any confidence whatsoever that i will find true love. like you, i would rather wait for the right person than be in an unhappy relationship for the sake of it, and many times i have sworn that i will never date again for fear of further pain, rejection and heartbreak. since the man i considered to be the love of my life broke my heart completely 3 years ago, i have dated a few guys. and in one way or another, most of them wore me down even further and ended in more tears, dealing with more rejection and blaming myself and disliking who i was. so yes, how do we keep going in the search for someone to truly love us when we fear all that pain, that physical and mental anguish. when our self esteem is at an all time low, how can we risk falling in love for fear they reject us all over again. firstly, you are ONLY 39. these days us girls in our late 30's are very different to our mothers generation. we look younger, still have as much fun as in our 20's and have as much chance of finding love as younger women... as long as we allow ourselves that chance. we know what went wrong before, we have learnt through our mistakes and we have grown wiser, more savvy and understand that being single is actually ok. we are more interesting, we know who we are and what we want and my god, we are so much more confident now than we were in our 20's, as long as once again, we allow ourselves to remember these things about us... so yes, you can absolutely find love again... and when you do, it will be a healthy, happy love that adds to your life and a lasting one that comes from your knowledge of what you need from a relationship. i have learned only recently that i cannot take my baggage into a new relationship... as hard as it is to trust any man, i have to give the new man in my life my complete trust from the start. and as terrifying as it is to fall for someone, knowing that when you do you can be hurt so badly, if we dont try it, we might miss something fantastic. start anew each time, let your confidence shine through... and if your confidence is lacking... blag it for long enough and it will become a habit. accept his compliments with a thank you never draw attention to what you consider your down sides.. because they are probably only real to you and noone else... and believe you are worth being loved... see the decent, kind and lovely human being you are and accept that you deserve love. take risks... put the past where it belongs.. dont give the bastards who hurt you any more of your time and energy.. and focus on lovely you and a shining new future... and i wish you all the happiness in the world..
sumdude Posted March 8, 2008 Posted March 8, 2008 Who knows? I just turned 40, less than a year divorced.. just starting to feel like it's possible again, when I'm ready.
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