rita's world Posted January 30, 2008 Posted January 30, 2008 Hello and thanks for reading! I am a very positive, fun, loving, cute sweet newly single mom who got mixed up with a typical Bad Boy nine months after my husband and I separated. My Bad Boy never became my boyfriend, more like a F Buddy but we became very attached and fell in love. He is Bad. When we met he was a drinker, smoker, and I thought he was a skirt chaser. He is wealthy and his family is worth maybe half a billion but he hides it like crazy because he does not act rich or want anyone to know. He chased me for five months (a lot of guys do at my work but he was so different with his experience) and declared love for me before we even kissed. He also knew that my husband cheated on me and acted like he would quit smoking and drinking and hanging out in bars. This boyfriend was also very hurt from his divorce and he is a single dad. My family also has a lot of money so we just connected really well even though we are total opposites. Well, I caved in after so many months of celibacy and it is so true what they say about sex changing everything. I was probably a conquest. The sex was so great to me and different from my husband of ten years. We had a sexless marriage and this new man was so different and dangerous. I felt so happy to be with someone finally. But the red flags started waving and he became so hot and cold. Asking me to marry him one day and then not calling back the next. This went on for a few months until last night when he actually licked a girls' face in front of me at my work. Unfortunately my family owns a niteclub where he still frequents even though he is suppose to quit. His female friend came in very drunk and she is a total downgrade compared to me. I was on a date with him and we were making out then an hour later he left with her! I did not see him again so I can only imagine something bad. He had the audacity to come into my work with her the next night and I told him not to hook up with her in front of me. WHAT MAKES it worse is that this same girl who is a bartender in another club was rumoured to have cheated with my husband while we were marries but she was supposed to be a friend of mine also! Of all the whores for him to mess around why the same one who may have been with my husband who was supposed to be a friend to my family? So back to the boyfriend. I do believe I fell n love with him and I wanted to take care of him. I know it is cliche that good girls want to fix bad boys. The thing is my husband was always good and sweet and sensitive and caring and he turned out to be a verbally abusive deceitful cheater. I firgured that this new boyfriend was so honest and loyal and masculine that he was just such a man. But he is a dog. Right in front of me with no care. He actually tried to hook me up with his best friend who also says he is in love me. Gross. I am so heartbroken and embarrassed even my kids overheard me crying which I have not done for months since my husband left. I have been so happy to be in love again. Now here I am again.
ANGUISHEDandBROKEN Posted January 30, 2008 Posted January 30, 2008 Why so much drama? You have kids, youre probably smokin hot, you have a very stable life financially from what you say.... Go travel, see the world, learn about other cultures, enrichen your mind and spirit and get out of those ****in club scenes....you dont need that. Your children need a mother with a head on her shoulders, not a clubbing mother.... Dont be Britney Spears..... And forget that loser.... If he had to work to live like everybody else maybe hed be diferent.... let him be his own retarted self with the retarted little hookers he finds. You need a man with class.....not a big child....
Author rita's world Posted January 30, 2008 Author Posted January 30, 2008 Thank you for the replies. I needed to purge my embarrassment. I am 38 and for some stupid reason my mom has me lying to say I am 30. A lot of people get shocked and think I look younger because we are half Asian so yes a lot of men hit on me and even my young looking mom. The club scene is bad and it is not my scene. I took over my husband's job since he and my mom were copartners in the club. It is very lucrative. My day job was being a mom and a part time teacher. I was not hot while I was married but I am now to make better tips in the club and it does help to attract men. But I just wanted this man. Not for money, just for companionship and sex and travel and friendship. But what a waste. Yes he is retarded. I know I am too old for this crap but it still feels like a loss. I was celibate for 9 months so now I cannot help but to feel that I will have another dry spell. That is OK because now I see how dudes just make a conquest and do not invest enough emotional time with a chick. I guess I learned my lesson.
Author rita's world Posted February 1, 2008 Author Posted February 1, 2008 Getting worse. I asked the Bad Boy not to hook up in front of me. He looked like he was going to cry, waited for a kiss, etc. The very next night, my night off and my mom's night to work he made out with this whore in front of all our friends and my coworkers. Even his best friend was astonished that he did that so belligerently. My mom confronted the whore, who used to steal from our bar so she got fired, and the girl said she was actually his girlfriend and they were going to live together. I know this is a lie and no one has ever seen them together. My mom did not mention that he was acting like my boyfriend in front of his friends and family. So I feel used and stupid. Plus I called him to let him know I was hurt. He was indifferent and said he would never come in the bar with her again and that I do not even know him. What the hell does that mean? How could he be so hot and cold? Declare love and marriage and then make out with a skank in front of my mom? Unbelievable cruelty.
becauseofyou Posted February 1, 2008 Posted February 1, 2008 Unbelievable cruelty. Yep it is. Forget about him and move on. Find someone who can truly appreciate you. He doesn't sound like a very good catch!
ANGUISHEDandBROKEN Posted February 1, 2008 Posted February 1, 2008 Hey beautiful.... I tell you what..... Im broke, dont really like the club scenes, Im more of a bar with live music type or just background music so that I can talk with others... Im decent looking and a really great person overall. Im in Lisbon.....Travel and come over, have a drink with me and forget that loser.... YOU DONT NEED THE DRAMA!!!!
Author rita's world Posted February 1, 2008 Author Posted February 1, 2008 Thank you. I have to go into work tonight. My mom advised me to not kick him out just to let him see me be stuck up. What makes matters worse is that he asked me to be with him through his test results for Parkinson's. He used this as an excuse that he was ill in his head and that was why he was acting this way. My mom says he will say anything with his silver tongue to get me into bed. I guess it worked. OK I need to let go. I know. It is hard to be brave again after my husband did much worse only nine months ago in the same bar. Geez. How did my life turn out like this. This tim elast year I was a part time teacher and stay ay home mom taking my kids skiing with my husband. Now I am just another single mom bar tart being tossed aside like trash. Horrible.
SamZamboni Posted February 1, 2008 Posted February 1, 2008 I'm having a very hard time buying any of this. I don't know if it was the half a billion or all the teenage jargon but this is just so late night "B" quality made for TV ....... lol
SeraBella Posted February 1, 2008 Posted February 1, 2008 I'm having a very hard time buying any of this. I don't know if it was the half a billion or all the teenage jargon but this is just so late night "B" quality made for TV ....... lol That's how I felt when I read it, too.
sandflea Posted February 1, 2008 Posted February 1, 2008 Hey, Rita - AB is making the play - come on sweets, pick up the ball. He's in freakin PORTUGAL! I hear the southern coast is very romantic... Drop the womanizing looser.
mistie03 Posted February 2, 2008 Posted February 2, 2008 My Bad Boy never became my boyfriend' date=' more like a F Buddy but we became very attached and fell in love. He is Bad.[/quote'] This is the part of your story that is contradictory. I think that you got attached and fell for this guy, but he doesn't feel the same way. I'm sorry to tell you this, but this Bad Boy is a player. Drop him like a bad habit and forget him as soon as possible. He's a waste of your time. I hope you find a guy that is worthy of your love and attention.
wizer Posted February 2, 2008 Posted February 2, 2008 You had me too. Til you said you were 38. Nice read though.
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