KenzieAbsolutely Posted January 30, 2008 Posted January 30, 2008 I'm so angry from a date I went on last night. I've been on loooots of dates mind you, with loooots of girls; some good, some quite bad, but this one was downright insulting. What an awful experience to be with someone so clueless. not my idea of a great date either, i'll give you that. but really, everything you said here, she could say the same thing about you. plus, the more little digs you throw in about her, and the little comments you make about yourself to build yourself up...well, it doesn't seem like you're such a prize. maybe she thought soup plantation was completely in your league. basically, you were hungry, cranky, you think you're too good for the place so you were embarrassed to even be there, and now she's unattractive to you, so all this gives you the right to act like a jerk? and then you further insult her by pretending it's some grand gesture you're making that you're doing her a favour by trying again? you have to earn snob status. and even though that's true, it doesn't mean other people don't see right through it. i'm sure that's why she didn't respond. good for her. it sounds like you made sure soup plantation wasn't the suckiest part of the date, when really it should have been.
Star Gazer Posted January 30, 2008 Posted January 30, 2008 I was at a loss for words as soon as I saw the reference to standing in line next to "nobodies." As a result, I can only echo everything Jilly has said in this thread (particularly her first post).
marlena Posted January 30, 2008 Posted January 30, 2008 Florida, You're right! Very contradictory! Who knows? Who cares? Not a serious poster. Wasted my time posting!
Jilly Bean Posted January 30, 2008 Posted January 30, 2008 I was at a loss for words as soon as I saw the reference to standing in line next to "nobodies." As a result, I can only echo everything Jilly has said in this thread (particularly her first post). Why, thank you, Star! I thought it was funny that he told me the Ritz-Carlton wouldn't let me in, considering I worked for RC corporate for 5 years... I SERIOUSLY have a craving to go to Sweet Tomatoes today. (same thing as Souplantation, and same owners)... Funny how little seeds can be planted that need to blossom. I gots to gets my salad bar on!
tanbark813 Posted January 30, 2008 Posted January 30, 2008 Does anyone else really want soup right now?
KenzieAbsolutely Posted January 30, 2008 Posted January 30, 2008 Does anyone else really want soup right now? mmmmmmmm...soup.... maybe our soup nazi was hoping for a soup kitchen, and instead got a plantation.
Star Gazer Posted January 30, 2008 Posted January 30, 2008 Does anyone else really want soup right now? I do. I wish I had a Soup Nazi in my town. Fresh Choice might have to do!
serial muse Posted January 30, 2008 Posted January 30, 2008 maybe our soup nazi was hoping for a soup kitchen, and instead got a plantation. Ha! Soup Nazi is exactly what I thought of when I read his post. He should change his username. Anyway, the guy's a cad and a rake, by his own admission, and he doesn't much care about what anyone else thinks. So I don't much care what he does, either. Yawn.
tanbark813 Posted January 30, 2008 Posted January 30, 2008 Fresh Choice might have to do! There's one near my work I go to a lot. I also looked online just now and found a Souplantation not too far away.
Mustang Sally Posted January 30, 2008 Posted January 30, 2008 Does anyone else really want soup right now? I feel like some Tomato Bisque.... mmmmm.... OP has always struck me as a "playa" based on his past posts. But I didn't realize that a buffet was such a no-no for dates....Granted - not my first choice, but hey - there are lots of good ways, no? JMO. And every now and again, I get a real craving for a breakfast buffet...call me crazy, but I just loooove pancakes and scrambled eggs. Obviously I'm completely out of it when it comes to dating etiquette.
serial muse Posted January 30, 2008 Posted January 30, 2008 There's one near my work I go to a lot. I also looked online just now and found a Souplantation not too far away. I admit that I'm now really curious to try one too...
twice_shy Posted January 30, 2008 Posted January 30, 2008 Does anyone else really want soup right now? NO SOUP FOR YOU!!! COME BACK 1 YEAR!!!
underpants Posted January 30, 2008 Posted January 30, 2008 Awe, I wish we had Soup Plantation. I want soup and a ballon animal. That would be so great.
KenzieAbsolutely Posted January 30, 2008 Posted January 30, 2008 . I also looked online just now and found a Souplantation not too far away. well, if you're going with cad, be prepared to pony up the cash. it ain't no soup kitchen, kids, and cad ain't payin' fer it! (for the record, isn't our soup nazi a troll?)
serial muse Posted January 30, 2008 Posted January 30, 2008 NO SOUP FOR YOU!!! COME BACK 1 YEAR!!! :laugh: Bummer, I'm SOL. There aren't any souplantations in my region.
tanbark813 Posted January 30, 2008 Posted January 30, 2008 well, if you're going with cad, be prepared to pony up the cash. it ain't no soup kitchen, kids, and cad ain't payin' fer it! I don't care. I'll be too busy playing with balloon animals anyway.
oppath Posted January 30, 2008 Posted January 30, 2008 maybe our soup nazi was hoping for a soup kitchen, and instead got a plantation. Cad Rake: NO SOUP FOR YOU. When I was making a six figure income early last year -- stopped to finish grad school -- my best dates were going to little 24 hour diner places for pie. Everyone has different tastes so if you are accustomed to fine dining, you probably will be more compatible with someone who enjoys it too, but if you rely on velvet seat cushions, dim lighting, and $$$ entrees that are as filling and satiating as a hot pocket to create a romantic atmosphere, well, then you simply don't know how to flirt and create romance. You can meet a woman at the mom-and-pop equivalent of a Denny's at 8pm, and if you are funny and charming and flirtatious, the date will be romantic and fun. Why exclude a potential positive experience? It's not just a matter of taste and lifestyle. It sounds to me like you prefer fancy things to create an illusion that you are high class, and you like to flash the $ to get the girl. If she called you up days in advance scheduling the date, and then decided on souplantation, I'd think "come on, can't you be more creative than that?" She'd be lame for not being creative in her choice, not because of the $. But it sounds like she called you up and said "I'm thinking of heading out to dinner to Souplantation if you'd like to join me." All I know is I am going to eat soup for lunch. I'm hungry.
marlena Posted January 30, 2008 Posted January 30, 2008 (for the record, isn't our soup nazi a troll?) Of course he is!!! Imagine that! A troll, a nazi and a soup-hater, not to mention an animal balloon hater to boot?
Star Gazer Posted January 30, 2008 Posted January 30, 2008 There's one near my work I go to a lot. I also looked online just now and found a Souplantation not too far away. There's a FC right by my office too. I have only been to a Souplantation in WeHo. Unfortunately, both give me a tummy ache. My body isn't used to that much fiber. But I'm sooo going at lunch! Haha!
Jilly Bean Posted January 30, 2008 Posted January 30, 2008 :laugh: Bummer, I'm SOL. There aren't any souplantations in my region. Look for a Sweet Tomatoes. Same thing, same ownership.
twice_shy Posted January 30, 2008 Posted January 30, 2008 So thanks again. You're right. Totally incompatible. But what I learned here this morning is that there really are some folks who think taking someone out on an early date to souplantation (or the like) is the thing to do. Now that was stupid to say. Unless you can't read, nobody said it was a great place to go on a date. But you're reaction to it was definitely out of line. Tell me, if you get this ticked off at a girl simply taking you to a buffet that you don't like, what you gonna do if she does something that really is a problem?...knock her lights out?
Star Gazer Posted January 30, 2008 Posted January 30, 2008 Cad Rake: NO SOUP FOR YOU. When I was making a six figure income early last year -- stopped to finish grad school -- my best dates were going to little 24 hour diner places for pie. Everyone has different tastes so if you are accustomed to fine dining, you probably will be more compatible with someone who enjoys it too, but if you rely on velvet seat cushions, dim lighting, and $$$ entrees that are as filling and satiating as a hot pocket to create a romantic atmosphere, well, then you simply don't know how to flirt and create romance. You can meet a woman at the mom-and-pop equivalent of a Denny's at 8pm, and if you are funny and charming and flirtatious, the date will be romantic and fun. Why exclude a potential positive experience? It's not just a matter of taste and lifestyle. It sounds to me like you prefer fancy things to create an illusion that you are high class, and you like to flash the $ to get the girl. One of my best dates ever ended at Denny's. This guy who was heavily involved in politics and philanthropy took me to a fancy fundraiser for young up-and-comers at The Four Seasons in Beverly Hills, borderline black-tie. We got there a little late, so most of the snooty hors d'oeuvres (I had to look that up to spell it correctly! ) were gone. Afterwards, we were staaaaarvvvving. He suggested a couple "hip" diners, but as we were passing a Denny's I said, "Oh no, Denny's. Gotta be Denny's. Mozz stix and ranch, baby!" The look on his face was of pure delight. We had a GREAT time at that Denny's. I guess that makes me "below" Cad Rake. Oh well.
carrotgirl Posted January 30, 2008 Posted January 30, 2008 One of my secret fantasies is to find a guy who will take me to a Denny's. I've never been and I just think it would be a lot of fun. Carrot
tanbark813 Posted January 30, 2008 Posted January 30, 2008 One of my secret fantasies is to find a guy who will take me to a Denny's. I've never been and I just think it would be a lot of fun. Carrot :eek: Moons Over My-Hammy rocks.
StartingOver07 Posted January 30, 2008 Posted January 30, 2008 And I appreciate those women chiming in who ALWAYS expect the guy to pay. But I'm no sugar daddy, I don't do that. And those who ALWAYS expect the guy to "court" them. But I don't do that either. And I know I know right right right we wouldn't be compatible. Believe me there aren't a lot of women I'm compatible with. But it does seem that most if not all of y'all have sided with her. And that's fine. I expected more 50/50 but hey, it's a learning experience right? That's what we're here for. I think the reason no one is siding with you (although possibly someone is... I have not read all the posts here) is because even if I felt the way you did on this date, I certainly would not show it. There's also a certain irony that you considered yourself above your fellow diners at Soup Plantation but handled yourself in a lower-class manner. Part of being "superior," imo, would be having the grace to handle whatever situation life puts you in. And, honestly, this one was not so terrible. My take is that she should not have expected you to pay. If I invite a man, then I expect that I will treat. So yes, she goofed here. But her intent was probably not to extract a free meal from you but to convey her enthusiasm for dating you. She was letting you know in her own way that she was interested in you. I suspect she no longer is. p.s. If this is the worst insult you've had in your entire life, I'd say life has treated you well and you should be darned happy!
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