ElvenPriestess Posted January 30, 2008 Posted January 30, 2008 You have to have a wooden stick shoved up your arse before you get it. No thanks, I'd rather stay a "nobody.":rolleyes:
Author Cad Rake Posted January 30, 2008 Author Posted January 30, 2008 Ok well I appreciate all the comments on my post. It has, as all the threads on this board do, rapidly degenerated into meaningless personal attacks. But it's been fun. If anybody has any more insightful comments about my predicament or comments about related experiences they've had, please post. Thanks again.
ElvenPriestess Posted January 30, 2008 Posted January 30, 2008 rapidly degenerated into meaningless personal attacks It started out this way. Anyways, hope you find what makes you happy, CR, whatever that may be.
Jilly Bean Posted January 30, 2008 Posted January 30, 2008 Something tells me they wouldn't let you into the Ritz Carlton lol LOL. Sorry - your petty insult doesn't hurt me. Know why? Because I know I am not a snob and I would never treat someone the way you did this poor girl. Like someone else pointed out, I think you have a LOT of insecurities, so you purposely date women whom you perceive to be "beneath" you, so you can feel superior. I suggest you work on your own lack of self-esteem issues, and realize NO ONE is better than anyone else. Until you learn that lesson, I suspect your dating life will continue to be as lackluster as it's been. Blessed be...
Pirouette Posted January 30, 2008 Posted January 30, 2008 Does any of this even make you question your own response to the evening, or are you simply dismissing it as other people's invalid opinions?
Pyro Posted January 30, 2008 Posted January 30, 2008 Does any of this even make you question your own response to the evening, or are you simply dismissing it as other people's invalid opinions? The voice of reason. Good question.
Author Cad Rake Posted January 30, 2008 Author Posted January 30, 2008 Does any of this even make you question your own response to the evening, or are you simply dismissing it as other people's invalid opinions? Mostly the latter, if you really want to know. But amid all the noise there are little nuggets of signal every once in awhile. That's all I expect from the internet. 98% noise 2% signal.
ElvenPriestess Posted January 30, 2008 Posted January 30, 2008 Hmm, seems a shame for us to try and help if it's just noise to you. Well, perhaps the right girl one day will help you see what you are too blinded to see.
Pyro Posted January 30, 2008 Posted January 30, 2008 Mostly the latter, if you really want to know. But amid all the noise there are little nuggets of signal every once in awhile. That's all I expect from the internet. 98% noise 2% signal. So why even come on here if you have that much disregard for the opinions of those on the internet?
Jilly Bean Posted January 30, 2008 Posted January 30, 2008 Enough of this noise - who's up for pancakes at Denny's? My treat!
ElvenPriestess Posted January 30, 2008 Posted January 30, 2008 Enough of this noise - who's up for pancakes at Denny's? My treat! I LOOOOOOVE late night Denny's!! Especially the yummy breakfast! Goodbye noise, I'm with JB!
Pirouette Posted January 30, 2008 Posted January 30, 2008 Mostly the latter, if you really want to know. But amid all the noise there are little nuggets of signal every once in awhile. That's all I expect from the internet. 98% noise 2% signal. And that's why it has degenerated into personal attacks, as you phrased it. People have overwhelmingly expressed that your reaction was out of the normal and perhaps insulting to the other person, and you can't even so much as acknowledge that it MAY be true. So you come across as very unreasonable and greatly lacking in empathy, and one quickly loses the desire to help someone like that. You wanted validation and commiseration. You weren't looking for personal insight at all.
Pyro Posted January 30, 2008 Posted January 30, 2008 Enough of this noise - who's up for pancakes at Denny's? My treat! Oh I don't know if thats up to my level of acceptance. *nose up in the air, along with the snobbish accent*.
Author Cad Rake Posted January 30, 2008 Author Posted January 30, 2008 Like I said, there's occasionally the golden nugget of information. But let's not hijack the thread. Last calls for any related anecdotes or anybody offering new insight.........................
spookie Posted January 30, 2008 Posted January 30, 2008 I don't trust people who aren't at least a little bit trashy.
marlena Posted January 30, 2008 Posted January 30, 2008 OK, then. Some "insightful" advice. Next time, date women within your "league." Wine and dine them with Dom Perignon and Beluga caviar, but , please, don't forget to show your upper-class breeding and pick up the bill, for heaven's sake. If you can't do that, then, you can always take them to a buffet! Good luck.
Ariadne Posted January 30, 2008 Posted January 30, 2008 Ok, I share the sentiment about the buffets. I've only been to the soup plantation once and I didn't like it. It was nasty. I had heard about it too at work like it was awesome and went to check it out. Basically, it's noisy, crowded, big families, no ambience, and people eating like crazy. But, if I were the girl in the date I'd be very concerned about your attitude and probably not want to see you again. You could have handled it with a sense of humor or something, but if you are going to be all stiff about some silly thing like that, I'd imagine it'd be the same if such and such and such etc. Someone very difficult to deal with. No patience for that.
Pyro Posted January 30, 2008 Posted January 30, 2008 I don't trust people who aren't at least a little bit trashy. :lmao: So true.
marlena Posted January 30, 2008 Posted January 30, 2008 You could have handled it with a sense of humor or something, but if you are going to be all stiff about some silly thing like that, I'd imagine it'd be the same if such and such and such etc. Someone very difficult to deal with. No patience for that. Well said, Ariadne.
stillafool Posted January 30, 2008 Posted January 30, 2008 OK, then. Some "insightful" advice. Next time, date women within your "league." Wine and dine them with Dom Perignon and Beluga caviar, but , please, don't forget to show your upper-class breeding and pick up the bill, for heaven's sake. If you can't do that, then, you can always take them to a buffet! Good luck. This is my point Cad, why don't you date within your "league"?
blind_otter Posted January 30, 2008 Posted January 30, 2008 If anybody has any more insightful comments about my predicament or comments about related experiences they've had, please post. Thanks again. I hesitated to add this, but...I used to date men who were inappropriate for me. I was attracted to thugs who had dropped out of high school and were ex-cons, or the like (while I'm college educated and ostensibly law-abiding, except for my 10 year love affair with pot...). They definitely took me places I'd never been before. I experienced things I wouldn't normally have experienced, saw things that I wouldn't normally have seen...unlike you, cad rake, I was utterly fascinated by this different side of life. Granted, the percentage of people using drugs/getting totally wasted was unusually high...but the fact remains. It was different, much different from the middle class, private school, classical piano and ballet, sheltered up bringing that I experienced. I grew out of my thug phase, thanks to a really scary, violent episode that led to the incarceration of my exboyfriend of mine... But still, my current SO is quite different from me. He likes the simpler things in life - fishing, camping (I'd never been camping before I met him ), barbeques. The nice thing is that he'll accomodate my needs occasionally, and take me to that really expensive restaurant or god forbid, the opera or ballet...Ok, so he does fall asleep when we go but at least he makes the effort. I even convinced him to take a month long holiday touring europe with me! While we did indulge in the nicer things (I did insist that we rent a house while we stayed in Italy, where we were for the majority of the time) - I appreciated his budget-mindedness and endured the cheaper hotels and meals that he insisted upon. It's all in the attitude you take...and that projects to others, and affects how they treat you/interact with you. I have an open mind. I don't see myself as above anyone else. I'm not class conscious. You, however, seem to be...
Mustang Sally Posted January 30, 2008 Posted January 30, 2008 Dude. There's no point in being insulted. Put on your big boy panties, and just chalk this one up to "incompatible." Thank goodness you didn't invest any more than three dates, before the true colors surfaced....right? You seem to know fairly specifically what you are looking for in dates/dating material, so get back out there and find it. Good luck with that...
tanbark813 Posted January 30, 2008 Posted January 30, 2008 I don't trust anyone who doesn't like balloon animals. 1
Nevermind Posted January 30, 2008 Posted January 30, 2008 I always find that the most important thing about a date is not the material aspect. It is nice to eat in a good restaurant but even the best food cannot make up for bad chemistry. Good chemistry, however, easily outplays a bad environment imho. Everybody is entitled to their own opinion, of course. People value different things. A girl might want to spend some fun time at a easy-going place, like soup plantation, for various reasons. How a guy behaves in a different, unusual environment, might be one. Maybe she wanted to show you her world, after you've shown her part of yours. Maybe she was testing you...for your ability to adapt, to get along, to be able to have a good time on her terms, not on yours. If she was looking for any of this...you probably failed. Just as much as she failed in your eyes. The insult...however...I cannot see. She did not behave in any way that could be interpreted as insulting. Inconsiderate, for not paying. But insulting? What exactly is the insult? Simple as that: you don't fit. Which is as much your fault as her's. Personally, I wouldn't call you either. Rubbing in her face that you hated the place once again after having said so directly at the restaurant...is not classy. Nor elegant, nor grown-up actually. The whole post says one thing: you feel insulted because she didn't look up to you. Which you seem to think she should. Did you ever wonder if she wanted to go hiking? If she really felt comfortable in the restaurant on the second date? No. You just assume she did. Maybe she wanted to tell you something with the third date. Who she is and where she feels good. Ever thought about that?
marlena Posted January 30, 2008 Posted January 30, 2008 I don't trust anyone who doesn't like balloon animals. Perfect!! I love them, too! Actually if I were the OP, I would have bought her one. And paid the damn bill, too!
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