Ashbash11 Posted January 30, 2008 Posted January 30, 2008 So, I have posted many times before and I won't go into the details of my story. I will provide a few basic details though- My ex boyfriend and I dated for over a year. We were "first loves" and he was the dumper, I the dumpee. We broke up for reasons such as communication problems and he didn't love me. We have since been broken up for 2 years-during which time we never really "cut the cord"... We tried the "Friends" thing for 2 years, but I finally broke it off and went complete NC because I still had feelings for him and the friendship was hurting me too much. So, I've been doing NC for almost 2 months now.. It's been VERY difficult, because my ex and I live in the same town and we have mutual friends... I've been doing really well with NC lately- going to parties where I don't know anyone, meeting new people, dating, etc... BUT, today I ran into my ex. It was incredibly awkward and he said, "did you get my message?" I said, "what message?" He says, "I'd like to go out for coffee sometime to catch up." I was disgusted that he would even suggest this idea, so I told him I was in a hurry and I had to go. I was pretty cold to him, because he's hurt me so much in the past and I am NOT about to let him back into my life. But at the same time, part of me wants to see him again... this is so hard. Why would he suddenly want to see me again? Why do exes say things like this? What's his motive? It seems innocent- coffee, but is it really?
s_n_d Posted January 30, 2008 Posted January 30, 2008 "It seems innocent-coffee, but is it really?" Time will tell...
Square_1 Posted January 30, 2008 Posted January 30, 2008 You have done good with the NC thing and it does get easier with time. If you meet up with him again, you'll have to start all over again from day 1. Don't do it to yourself. Trust me on this one. If he hurt you and you are healing...let sleeping dogs lie!! Best of luck to you!! S1
Author Ashbash11 Posted January 30, 2008 Author Posted January 30, 2008 Thanks square 1.. I know, I have no intention of meeting up with him again. I've done A LOT of work on getting over him and why should I undo it? I guess I was just really wondering, why do lots of people's exes do this? After sometime of NC, they come back and want to "catch up." I've read lots of other people's stories about this, too. I mean, my ex was the dumper, so why does he want me in his life so much? I don't get it...
Author Ashbash11 Posted February 1, 2008 Author Posted February 1, 2008 Actually, I am going to have coffee with him. I am at a really low point right now and I really don't think seeing him could make things worse anyway.
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