wildheartfreesoul Posted January 30, 2008 Posted January 30, 2008 I have a problem. Iv been in a really wonderful relationship with my boyfriend for a year now, and everything is still wonderful. He is understanding and loving and wise and forgiving and loyal. But there is another guy, i have been friends with him for about 4 years now and i really like him. We get along really well, he is very hansom, but the problem is...He lives in texas and i live in california, and I really want to meet him. But there is no way i can go meet him without A. lying to my boyfriend and hiding it from him (which i know will make me guilty and hate myself) or B. take a "break" from our relationship, which will make me jealous if he goes and has a fling too and of course is a very risky chance to take of actually getting back together. I have been talking with my texan friend about visiting him for a long time now, and i really want to, but i really do love my boyfriend and dont want to lose him. What in the world should i do??? I cant just forget about texas. I really really like him. Iv known him for a long time. but at the same time, is it really worth it to put my current relationship in danger to see if i really like texas enough to try a relationship with him? and is a relationship with him even possible????
lovesparis Posted January 30, 2008 Posted January 30, 2008 take bf to tx to meet friend together and be friends?
s_n_d Posted January 30, 2008 Posted January 30, 2008 You CANNOT put your current relationship in jepordy. And thats what your doing by even considering leaving your bf for this other guy. Trust me...I lost the love of my life and I only wish I could take back time. But at the same time, if you want to try things with this other guy, you need to breakup with your current bf right away. Its not fair to him that you are interested in someone else too. Im sure you only want the best for him.
PinkRibbon Posted January 30, 2008 Posted January 30, 2008 Just curious what are you doing????? You stated you have a good relationship and a good man in your life and you are thinking about having an affair??? You need to quit emailing your Texas "friend" and concentrate on what is right in front of you.
serendip Posted January 30, 2008 Posted January 30, 2008 I have been talking with my texan friend about visiting him for a long time now, and i really want to, but i really do love my boyfriend and dont want to lose him. You are emotionally cheating on your boyfriend which is the same or worse as sleeping with another dude behind your boyfriend's back(imo). He doesn't deserve this. Break up with your boyfriend if he is not giving you what you need in the relationship b/c you feel a need to cheat or cut off all contact with the other dude and concentrate on your current relationship. It's not fair to your bf that you string him along...until you find someone better. My ex did the same thing you are doing...she met a guy on a trip and she was emotionally cheating on me for months...when I found out...it destroyed me and I still feel the sting of it.
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