CrazyScientist Posted January 30, 2008 Posted January 30, 2008 (edited) Last summer I met the girl of my dreams, and we entered a relation. After some time she started thinking that I actually love another girl, so we broke up. I wrote her a 100 emails, sms, calls... She only replyed: don't call me, leave me alone. I found another girl to forget her, lasted a week. After that I called her like crazy when I realized that I cant forget her and managed to have a meeting. I admited I tryed to forget her and also that I had sex with another girl(my mistake), and that I'm sorry. Soon she left to another country(not because of this, plans from earlyer). We continued communicating. I was there for her allways, talked for 2-3 hours a day. She told me that she still loves me, and I told her that too. We renewed our realtion, but she told me in a joke that she will give me back that I slept with another girl 3 days after we broke up. I was thinking she was joking. She said that she forgave me. I also, in a joke, said that I love her soo much that I give her a chance to cheat me once, I'll forgive her, as we are not to see each other for 4 months, if you must, you do it. She came back in december, stayed a month, had a great time. Soon I will move abroad too to be with her. Last week I found out she cheated but didn't tell me. I'm devastated. What to do? Talk? Kick her? Guess, I will try to talk to her. If she admits that she did it, I already did forgive her. But if she lies, than I'ts over. No more trust there. Btw I never cheated a girl in my life, but I made a stupid mistake. Also, she told me once if I'm horny, I should go have a girl. I said that I love her and do not want anyone else... Is this relation over? What to do? I made a mistake... Please advice!!!! Edited January 30, 2008 by CrazyScientist
samamelia Posted January 30, 2008 Posted January 30, 2008 Hey...I say sit down and have a good conversation...Is this girl the end all be all of your world??? I do think there's a difference in just out right cheating in a relationship and f*ing after a relationship is over...although you momentarily throw the feelings you have for your girl out the window...But I suppose that's the point of sleeping with another to forget and throw away the pain... Set boundaries with your gf...that way you have expectations and then if they are crossed, you both know there are consequences..i.e. If you step outside of our relationship by kissing, sleeping with, or dating another person; I will take a time out of our relationship and consider all my options, including leaving the relationship...then you just have to follow through... Think about it, Be Blessed
Ronni_W Posted January 30, 2008 Posted January 30, 2008 Last week I found out she cheated ... If she admits that she did it, I already did forgive her. But if she lies, than I'ts over. First make 100% sure that the information you got last week is accurate - what if your source misunderstood or misinterpreted or just plain lied to you? Why is it easier to think that this girl would lie, and that it's your source who's telling the truth? During your conversation, I'd suggest asking instead of accusing.
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