PLAYBRAT Posted January 30, 2008 Posted January 30, 2008 Question? Is there EVER a right time to tell someone you Love them without it being "weird" or awkward?? I mean...you can go YEARS without even telling a family member you love them even if you THINK you do or feel it....even then it's weird saying it. So how do you know when to say it to someone NON family related????Especially someone you DO love or have feelings for?? When is ever a good time??Is there?? Some people NEVER say it....I guess I just hate feeling stupid if and when I want to say it....... Thoughts??
backspn Posted January 30, 2008 Posted January 30, 2008 (edited) You just know when is right. Ive known people who say it after a month. How the person takes it, thats a different story. Edited January 30, 2008 by backspn
norajane Posted January 30, 2008 Posted January 30, 2008 Question? Is there EVER a right time to tell someone you Love them without it being "weird" or awkward?? Sure - when you know they love you. The only reason you wouldn't tell someone you love them is if you are uncertain of how they would take it, right? If they love you, then they'd be happy to hear it. If you are in doubt of their love, then don't say anything until you are sure. Actions speak louder than words, both in letting someone know you love them and in knowing whether they love you.
oppath Posted January 30, 2008 Posted January 30, 2008 I would say that you say it not when you are certain the other person will say it back, but when you can trust them to treat you with care and lovingly when you do say it. Meaning it's ok to say it a month or two before someone else may be able to return it. For me, if I say it, I want to really really mean it. I want it to mean "no matter what happens to me, if my family gets sick and hurt or I need to move for a career, I want us to stay together, because I love you." That is what the word means to me. Other people it may be a different emotion with a different meaning. But you say it when you know the other person, even if they can't say it back, can say "Thank you. I'm really starting to develop feelings for you too and I'm looking forward to seeing where this goes." I don't think you should expect more than that right away. Eventually, you will want it said back, but it's ok if it takes a while as long as the other person validates your feelings and reassures you he/she is developing deeper feelings.
Author PLAYBRAT Posted January 30, 2008 Author Posted January 30, 2008 I would say that you say it not when you are certain the other person will say it back, but when you can trust them to treat you with care and lovingly when you do say it. Meaning it's ok to say it a month or two before someone else may be able to return it. For me, if I say it, I want to really really mean it. I want it to mean "no matter what happens to me, if my family gets sick and hurt or I need to move for a career, I want us to stay together, because I love you." That is what the word means to me. Other people it may be a different emotion with a different meaning. But you say it when you know the other person, even if they can't say it back, can say "Thank you. I'm really starting to develop feelings for you too and I'm looking forward to seeing where this goes." I don't think you should expect more than that right away. Eventually, you will want it said back, but it's ok if it takes a while as long as the other person validates your feelings and reassures you he/she is developing deeper feelings. Thank you to everyone...especially Oppath... You said it best. It is awkward saying the L word to ANYONE...for me at least.Unless you have an inkling of what their response might be..at SOME point.That's the thing.......sometimes you might not know for a while.Some people do not know how to accept love...or the declarations of love...so the process may in fact take some time. I am prepared for that. In fact..I EXPECT it....and understand. Love is complex....and not always easy.Mostly obscure. So..this might be easier than I think....... I will report back asap.....(hehe)
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