funkify Posted January 29, 2008 Posted January 29, 2008 I was with a guy for 4 years most of which was on and off (my decision). The last time we saw each other was 8 months ago. I wanted him back and he already found someone else. This was a shock to me because he always wanted me back no matter what. So I left him alone. I found someone else but it didn't work out. His relationship didn't work out either. I think the whole experience has made me realise how much I love him and definately want him in my life. Recently, I found his facebook page (through mutual friends) and decided to email him. I told him about the exciting things I've done since we last saw each other and generally a friendly 'catch-up' type email. He wrote back, very happy to hear from me and even suggested he might come see me at work. I suggested we meet for coffee instead and he said it was a good idea and he'd get back to me. Now, I know from this contact he does not have bad feelings towards me. But I have no idea if he still have love for me. He was always the one to love me more though our last contact he was infatuated with his then current gf (now split). I want to get him back. I love him more than anything but I don't want to screw it up. What is the best way to tackle this? Be friends for a while then find out if there are any feelings? Or find out on the first meeting? Help me win him back guys! Any stories or advice is much appreciated!
hayati Posted January 29, 2008 Posted January 29, 2008 I think you should leave it alone. You've been on and off him for 4 yrs. Things happen for a reason. You are lonely now and you are going back to something that makes you comfortable.......familiar. But it will end again. Move on. Stop holding on to the past, move forward. Sorry to be blunt, but it's a cycle. It's Over and it did end for a reason - each and every time!
AdrianaLima Posted January 29, 2008 Posted January 29, 2008 I think you should leave it alone. You've been on and off him for 4 yrs. Things happen for a reason. You are lonely now and you are going back to something that makes you comfortable.......familiar. But it will end again. Move on. Stop holding on to the past, move forward. Sorry to be blunt, but it's a cycle. It's Over and it did end for a reason - each and every time! I truly agree. But with that being said, if you really really want to get back with him, (although you already know that it may result into an on and off relationship) you should see where his head is at, before you pour your feelings out on the table, and he feel the total opposite. But don't be upset with him if he don't feel the same way that you do.
PLAYBRAT Posted January 29, 2008 Posted January 29, 2008 Hmmmmm you've been "off and on"........ Last time you saw each other was eight months ago... Hard call. This could go either way.. I would tread lightly.No expectations.... a light hearted beginning.Lots of flirting etc.... But do not get your heart involved.You've been down this road..and there's a reason it didn't work before. If YOU made all the decisions before...let him take the lead now.. maybe that will make the difference. If not..at least you know. Either way...just remember to HAVE FUN!!!!!!!!!
polly240483 Posted January 30, 2008 Posted January 30, 2008 i disagree with everything that has been said in the replys if you want him back as much as i can imagine coz i badly want my ex back then go get him. i woz with my ex for 4 n a half years n split up 8 months ago, but iv realised that i still love him n want him back, as it stands im tryin to win back my man n i the same dnt want to screw it up so im takin it day by day, time will tell. i must say im not a quitter at least not until im ready to quit. good luck n keep me posted
sandflea Posted January 30, 2008 Posted January 30, 2008 Playbrat is right on the money. Take it a day at a time, remember to have fun, and don't get your expectations all out of whack... Stranger things have happened. SF
messiah Posted January 30, 2008 Posted January 30, 2008 i think you should just tell him how you feel, because how are you supposed to move on if you still love him and not know how he feels about you after 8 months. It will be easier to move on if you kno he wont ever feel the same again. But at this moment you dont kno how he feels, so its worth a shot to get him back.
polly240483 Posted January 31, 2008 Posted January 31, 2008 But still he may not reveal his true feelings we all know what men r like, they dnt let on how they really feel. Try what im trying, im only gna try to get my man bk up until the exact date we split up, which is 28th may. if he doesnt come back then at least can never say i never tried.
Author funkify Posted January 31, 2008 Author Posted January 31, 2008 How are you trying to get him back Polly? That's what I don't know what to do. How do you get someone back without possibly scaring them off?
CaliGuy Posted January 31, 2008 Posted January 31, 2008 I want to get him back. I love him more than anything but I don't want to screw it up. What is the best way to tackle this? Be friends for a while then find out if there are any feelings? Or find out on the first meeting? Help me win him back guys! Any stories or advice is much appreciated! Nothing you do or say can make someone love you or bring them back. They either do or do not on their own. The more you try to pull someone towards you the more they will pull away. Your only option in this situation is to move on with your life. If they decide they want you back some time in the future you can deal with it then.
polly240483 Posted February 1, 2008 Posted February 1, 2008 if you want add me on msn and we can chat there my addy is [email protected] if you dont have msn please let me know
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