Ilm Posted January 29, 2008 Posted January 29, 2008 Hello everyone, I literally just registered here so I don't know what to expect, but I'll hope for the best. My situation is unique so I really thought I needed some help. First of all I'm young, In my early teens. I met a girl over the internet 4 years ago and we became great friends. About 2 years ago we both took a big step and said we loved each other and for a while everything was great. She lives about 3000 miles away from me (I live on the west coast and she lives on the east) so our relationship has been entirely long distance and we've only talked over an instant messenger or over the phone. I tell you all of this just to give you background information, none of that is what I view as my "problem". My problem is that I really don't feel that I love her anymore. At first all I could ever think about was her, or what she was thinking, or what she was feeling. And now I think that we are just too different... For example, she's incredibly outgoing where-as I am a very shy "nerd" as it were. We have never gotten into a fight or anything like that but I just don't feel the same way about her. Should I tell her this? Should I just try to look past it? As someone so inexperienced as I am help is greatly appreciated. Thank you all in advance
GangstaGrillz Posted January 29, 2008 Posted January 29, 2008 I think that you should let her know how you feel, instead of having her thinking that that the two of you have something, when really that's not the case at all. You don't have to break the news to her harsh, but let your feelings be heard. But let her know that the two of you can and always, be friends.
Author Ilm Posted January 29, 2008 Author Posted January 29, 2008 Thanks for responding so quickly. How should I approach the topic? Should I just tell her that I don't think I love her anymore or should I say that I don't feel quite so strongly? I don't know if this is just me but I feel like If I say that to her she would take it very badly... Maybe because we've always had such a strong relationship but I really want to do this in the least stressful way possible.
Mr Zandos Posted January 31, 2008 Posted January 31, 2008 Arrange to meet her half way (distance), if she says no then forget it, its a young internet romance, had one myself, they dont work, but you can always stay friends
TotalChaos Posted February 9, 2008 Posted February 9, 2008 You need to talk to her about this as soon as possible. You are both young still and change is expected. I'm sure she will take it hard, because girls usually do. However, the longer you let this go on the harder it will be. She will also resent you more if she finds out that you had been putting it off. I know it's hard, but the best thing to do is just talk to her about it and be sincere. She will be hurt at first, but she will respect you more in the long run and you may keep a best friend out of the situation. I would almost bet that one day she will look back with a smile on her face and be thankful that things didn't work out as you will do yourself. Good Luck with this and keep us posted.
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