imstuckinatree3 Posted January 29, 2008 Posted January 29, 2008 ok...heres the story. I go to a small community college where everyone comes from the same general area of town. Last semester i had a class with a very attractive girl. Unfortunately, throughout the entire semester i never said more than the casual hello, to be honest, i didnt even know her name, and im pretty sure she didnt know mine. The other day i was on facebook and found her profile while searching through some of my buddies friends. Heres where my question comes into play. Although i know nothing more than she is attractive, i would like to get to know her better. So should i send her a message and tell her i would like to go out some time with her, or would i look like a stalker. Should i say something else, if so what. Any help woulld be greatly appreciated.
JustinWolf Posted January 29, 2008 Posted January 29, 2008 Make REAL contact first, dont ask her out on a date on FACEBOOK!!! Start with a Hi live and then build a conversation asking her about her classes or whatever. You can do it!
Author imstuckinatree3 Posted January 29, 2008 Author Posted January 29, 2008 Thats the thing....i have no idea where to find her....i dont even go to that school anymore...so it almost has to be done online
wizer Posted January 29, 2008 Posted January 29, 2008 Contact her online, tell her who you are, tell her anything that will show her what the two of you have in common, and see if you can get her intrerested. No, you will not appear like a stalker. That's how people meet.
EYECANDY000 Posted January 30, 2008 Posted January 30, 2008 If you cant contact her in person, then I wouldnt suggest starting off the conversation with would you like to go out some time. I would introduce by self and have small talk with her..
reservoirdog1 Posted January 30, 2008 Posted January 30, 2008 You've got absolutely nothing to lose by approaching her via facebook. I mean, right now, you have absolutely nothing with her; you don't think she even knows your name. You can't lose what you don't have. Make sure you have a few recent, flattering photos on your profile. Preferably a photo of you somewhere interesting, or doing something interesting. You want to pique her curiosity. So, approach her through FB. Try to be casual ("hey, you and I were in class X together, how's things..."), witty/funny, and a bit intriguing. With the second message, tease her a bit, in a friendly way. DON'T ask her out yet -- your goal should be to get a back-and-forth exchange going, so that she looks forward to your next message. Once she's fully engaged in that exchange, you can ramp it up a bit and say something like "I'm guessing that your repartee is an email-only thing. Let's grab a drink next week and see if you can prove me wrong." Et voila... opportunity. It's all up to you from there.
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