lynxwizard Posted January 28, 2008 Posted January 28, 2008 My ex who I still love dearly went back to her ex after 2 years with me, this is their 3rd time back together, I am in NC. I heard she is marrying him this March, I dont think it will work becasue he is very controlling and has issues, (she said he has changed ) I have heard from a friend who works with her that most of the time he sees her she looks like she lost her best friend. her man wants her to leave her job (she does not want too) and talked her into a early marrage. Anyhow we used to go to the chapel together and pray, I still do that now on my own, but there is a Nun there who knows us both, and when the nun sees my ex she tells her how much I still love her, I have told the Nun not to do that and the other day she saw my ex again after mass (I dont go to mass there) and I asked the Nun if my name came up, she at first thought so then said she told my ex that I still loved her, then she said she was not even sure what she said, she is old and forgets things but is such a sweet lady. Anyhow I am trying to move on but part of me longs to be with her again, (those who know her dont think it will work with the guy shes with, but I know allot would have to happen to be with her again) I guess I am thinking the Nun is not helping matters by telling my ex how I feel (my ex knows I love her) do you think it matters what the Nun tells her ? I was thinking it wont help things if she keeps bringing me up to her. I was hopeing that maybe some day she will think about me more and then who knows.
s_n_d Posted January 28, 2008 Posted January 28, 2008 Its probably not helping that the nun keeps telling your ex that you love her but I dont think its hurting your chances either. We all have the hope that our exs are thinking about us and missing us. Just hang in there. I dunno about everyone else on LS, but I will ALWAYS have the HOPE that my ex and I might get back together one day.
Author lynxwizard Posted January 28, 2008 Author Posted January 28, 2008 Its probably not helping that the nun keeps telling your ex that you love her but I dont think its hurting your chances either. We all have the hope that our exs are thinking about us and missing us. Just hang in there. I dunno about everyone else on LS, but I will ALWAYS have the HOPE that my ex and I might get back together one day. Thanks, I kind of thought that, it wont help but cannot hurt either, Hope and Faith are all I have now
s_n_d Posted January 28, 2008 Posted January 28, 2008 Hope and Faith is all I got too. Ever since I met him(the ex) and since the breakup, my faith has become A LOT stronger and Im glad for that. I find myself praying when I feel like Im becoming weak.
Author lynxwizard Posted January 28, 2008 Author Posted January 28, 2008 Hope and Faith is all I got too. Ever since I met him(the ex) and since the breakup, my faith has become A LOT stronger and Im glad for that. I find myself praying when I feel like Im becoming weak. You and me are in the same boat, she helped me so much with my faith too. I have been praying allot these days even tho things look not to good for me and her.
s_n_d Posted January 28, 2008 Posted January 28, 2008 You and me are in the same boat, she helped me so much with my faith too. I have been praying allot these days even tho things look not to good for me and her. Aww Yes we are in the same boat. My ex helped me a lot with my faith as well. And I helped him as well. Before he met me, he hardly prayed or went to church or anything. By the time of our breakup, he was always praying and I KNOW he still does. I guess we brought out the best in each other and now I cant even get a simply reply to a text message or anything.
s_n_d Posted January 28, 2008 Posted January 28, 2008 Things arent looking up for my ex and I either.. But Keep having hope and your faith. And remember... "For nothing shall be impossible for God." Luke 1:37
Author lynxwizard Posted January 28, 2008 Author Posted January 28, 2008 Things arent looking up for my ex and I either.. But Keep having hope and your faith. And remember... "For nothing shall be impossible for God." Luke 1:37 Thank you so much for sharing that, maybe we can share our stories, I have to go now.
s_n_d Posted January 29, 2008 Posted January 29, 2008 Yeah ofcourse. Ill just summarize:laugh: since the story is long and I dont want to relive everything... So basically we met in April of last year. We have a lot in common. We both play bass guitar, love the same kind of music, both value our families more than anything...I could go on and on.. Like i said, We brought out the best in eachother. It got really serious to the point where we were talking about marriage and I met his parents and his family and we even picked out names for our future kids. He even went so far as to tell me he wanted me to keep my last name if i wanted to. We broke up in November. Since then, we've been talking up until a month and a half ago. At that point, we lost all contact... And since then its been horrible..Well..its been horrible since November. But yeah basically he said we were arguing a little too much over useless/pointless things. And we were. He also said I was a little clingy. I also know he has alot of insecurities since almost all of his exs have cheated or left him for friend(s) of his. Its just frustrating that it had to end over little things like that. Things that can be worked out. But hes the type of guy that doesnt believe in second chances and well its almost three months now and as time goes by things seem to only be getting worser. There seems to be no hope, as a result. It doesnt help that EVERYTHING reminds me of him. This morning, I woke up to people on tv critiqing the movie, "Good luck chuck". It happens to be one of the first movies we saw together. :'( Fast forward to a little later in the day and a HUGE billboard of his favourite NASCAR driver just happens to be there...His favourite song comes on the radio...I see someone who reminds me of him...While listening to music on the way home from university, i get flashbacks from when we were together. Its horrible.
Author lynxwizard Posted January 29, 2008 Author Posted January 29, 2008 Yeah ofcourse. Ill just summarize:laugh: since the story is long and I dont want to relive everything... So basically we met in April of last year. We have a lot in common. We both play bass guitar, love the same kind of music, both value our families more than anything...I could go on and on.. Like i said, We brought out the best in eachother. It got really serious to the point where we were talking about marriage and I met his parents and his family and we even picked out names for our future kids. He even went so far as to tell me he wanted me to keep my last name if i wanted to. We broke up in November. Since then, we've been talking up until a month and a half ago. At that point, we lost all contact... And since then its been horrible..Well..its been horrible since November. But yeah basically he said we were arguing a little too much over useless/pointless things. And we were. He also said I was a little clingy. I also know he has alot of insecurities since almost all of his exs have cheated or left him for friend(s) of his. Its just frustrating that it had to end over little things like that. Things that can be worked out. But hes the type of guy that doesnt believe in second chances and well its almost three months now and as time goes by things seem to only be getting worser. There seems to be no hope, as a result. It doesnt help that EVERYTHING reminds me of him. This morning, I woke up to people on tv critiqing the movie, "Good luck chuck". It happens to be one of the first movies we saw together. :'( Fast forward to a little later in the day and a HUGE billboard of his favourite NASCAR driver just happens to be there...His favourite song comes on the radio...I see someone who reminds me of him...While listening to music on the way home from university, i get flashbacks from when we were together. Its horrible.It sounds like to me that you should of been able to work out things with him, I take it he is stubborn because he does not believe in 2nd chances, yes it sounds like things could be worked out between both of you, I take it he knows how you feel about him, if thats the case you have to walk away and look to your faith like I have, maybe he will miss you someday.
s_n_d Posted January 31, 2008 Posted January 31, 2008 Yes, he is EXTREMELY stubborn like most Italian men. And Its not a good thing in this case. Its not helping at all. And your so right...About walking away and looking to my faith. Looking to my faith is all Ive been doing these days. Like I said before, anything is possible with God. J'espere (I hope).
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